Of course, it is not easy to "resolve" their disputes, but at this moment we teach them to conflict correctly, always keep love for each other, find solutions, ask for help! Here is for example, always the case so, that Junior climb to senior and prevent them to do something its, complex. I taught Miroslava ask Garasu (especially if she plays with somebody else), take it to the game, to teach him. Immediately no whining, sitting peacefully, the puzzle is more difficult to collect.
I think jealousy happens when the parents of their wrong behavior offend one of the children. Do not pay attention to the feelings of children when innocent older is always to blame, for example, and also deprive their attention one of the children. After all, children love parents, expressed through the attention (and every person else and their languages of love) is all important.
Maybe it seems terribly difficult. Yes, it can be difficult, but raising children is a work of the soul. And the contribution to the relationship with the child that we do in early childhood (up to 5 years), it is the most important and determines the relationship of parents and children for life!
Olga and Julia: in one article you wrote: "Giving children only ready — made toys, we "close the key" to their imagination, and in the future-the ability to think outside the box." Which of the manuals made by you were the most popular and in demand?
Ekaterina: in General, children with parents are good everywhere. My husband and I believe they are more important attention of parents than cool toys. Toys we have relatively little buying and developing those that can't do yourself.
My last hobby is home theatre
My latest hobby is home theater, "the Wolf and the 7 little goats" painted and carved quite simple, Daryacha helped to paint, "toured" him around the hotel, kids loved it, and I like it! Theatre for kids, in my opinion, should be as interactive as possible. For example, children put in a box with a slit mouth wolf cardboard goats, clapped their hands, helping the blacksmith. I read a fairy tale roles, and imagine how I would have it delivered! Oh, and I also compose tales, moral and educational, I hope someday to publish!
Often I make something Montessori, sorty, happy to come up with educational games, interesting stories filed about the world."Rashless" with the use of the old straps, buckles, pockets went to basebord different tactile pieces of materials on the Mat.
Olga and Julia: Many mothers believe that children do not belong in the kitchen. How did you come to the idea of using the kitchen as a place for child development?
Ekaterina: the Kitchen has always seemed to me the most convenient place to practice, for example, games with cereals. The baby's busy, and I'm in charge while I'm busy cooking. And where else to conduct experiments, because the kitchen is much easier to clean, convenient child wash and remove the results of the experiment.
The kitchen has always seemed to me the most convenient place to study
As for sharp objects, from early childhood I show that they are dangerous, gently pricking the finger with scissors, fork, knife. I read about it at Nikitin in "We and our children". After all, before the collision with the "sharp" in reality, the baby does not know the meaning of the spoken word! There is a clear rule-the knife can only be used with me.
And, you know, it's nice to spread out with a two-year-old son cheesecakes on plates, and while you distract yourself, he will distribute all the forks. Daughter two went to turn off the gas at my request, if the newborn her little brother was crying, a little help, but priceless — lunch is saved! And how important it is for a child to hear that he has provided invaluable help.
Olga and Julia: You attended a course on TRIZ. Has the view of motherhood and upbringing changed since then?
Ekaterina: Another quality that I see as increasingly important in modern life is the ability to think, to think creatively. Before I learned about TRIZ (theory of inventive problem solving), Chapter in the book, Y. B. Gippenreiter about the right questions pushed me to look for them, to make questions prompted the child to come to the answer. In 4 years the result is noticeable, Daryacha sometimes takes such decisions, which we, adults, do not realize.
The ability to think beyond the template, not to complain that the child eats poorly, and to come up with a game, make a theater or a cartoon with your own hands, not to watch TV, not to depend on brands, from the "so it is necessary" in society, I think, this is a certain freedom. For example, do not take the child to the garden, just turned three, giving almost all his time rarely favorite work, and work at home, managing to do more for the family and do what you like. I have the experience and the search and work from home together with an active childhood of my children, so I blog in Instagram launched a series of posts about mom's work #happywithkid_rabotamam.
Olga and Julia:many mothers are concerned about time management. How to start organizing time and space for a young mother?
Ekaterina: it always seemed to me that I have little time (because I always want to do more), before the birth of my second child I began to read a lot about time management, even studied for a time management consultant. You know what I realized? Start need with themselves, then will forces moral and physical. I always quite unconsciously gave myself a rest, put the child-15 minutes with tea and a book of mine. Of course, you need a break from the children, but this is if there is such an opportunity.
I always quite unconsciously gave myself a rest, put the child-15 minutes with tea and a book of mine.
Every day, in addition to the circles (Darasa goes for English and drama classes, Miroslav into music and dance classes, as well as Drasha goes with us, then she falls, and we walk together to the molding of clay), I try to work with children, and to use every moment, for example, while going on the hill — learn a poem (in the pocket of the left) while standing at the stove — ask a riddle, a tongue Twister. They are interested and happy, and it is necessary to stipulate that the time for their games they have.
Olga and Julia: what is a Perfect family day?
Ekaterina: to be Honest, I'm a terrible "late", and if I managed to bring the children to class on time, and even a lot of walking and time to put Miroslav to sleep (and all this is interconnected), the day is perfect! It is also important to have time to devote quality time to each of the children, husband, family, home — well here I am a hero hehe! And in Instagram you need to write!
But sometimes, if you really do not have the strength, I will gladly replace evening classes or reading books with children on a cartoon or a good movie (TV in the family we do not watch at all). I realized that it is important not to blame myself that this and that did not have time, and praise myself for success, without looking at anyone.
Many people like to compare themselves with others, but reading someone's blog and watching Instagram, we can never know whether a person writes the truth, what his priorities are, whether someone helps him. For example, my husband helps me with cooking, he is a great cook, and this is his outlet. And it is important for me at the end of the day to sum up — was there a lot of love in it? - this is the main indicator of a good day!
Olga and Julia: Active lifestyle, sports and motherhood. Is it possible to combine these things? Passion for horse riding, winter sports, yoga-how does it fit into the life of a mother with two young children? Tell us about joint yoga exercises with children, what does it give?
Ekaterina: many classes that support a mother's good mood and physical shape can be held together with children. For example, belly dance video or find a Studio where you can come with your child, yoga-even easier. In prenatal yoga I went with Daryacha in Jakarta, at the end she "went" on the coach, forever conquered it.
Yoga for mothers and babies JoyKid
Miroslav was my partner for the joint practice of yoga for mothers and babies JoyKid, I worked with him and trained coach. First, the newborn watches the mother, and for him it is development. From three months he is already a mother's partner in Asanas, trains the vestibular apparatus of the baby, he learns his body, gets new sensations, studies the world and his mother, tactile sensations are also important to him. Mom, playing and developing the baby, improves herself physically, but yoga exercises-it is also a recovery of the body.
This summer, my girlfriend and I went for a walk with the children in the woods and while the older ones were playing, doing yoga with the younger ones, it was incredibly great! With children together you can learn to draw (there are many online lessons), and it is so saves from a bad mood-checked for yourself!
My husband and I are not afraid to travel with children, of course, when you fly across half the world, especially with 1.6-2 year olds, 11-hour flight without children seems to rest: sitting, eating, watching movies! In small hikes on tea plantations in mountains of Java we carried the daughter in ergo-a backpack, with Miroslav I also went by Bicycle on the wood, of course, already in Moscow area.
Olga and Julia: What is the message of your blog? Wish something to our readers.
Ekaterina: I keep a blog because I like to share the useful things that I discovered for myself, to interact and cooperate with people, to reel in something interesting and necessary! I'm not an ideal mom, I sometimes cry, not enough time, fight, survive, but our life is never a smooth line, and moments of happiness, love in the shower it felt sharper after some of the experiences and pain of the soul, and a difficult situation given to us over, and we have to become better to see into our hearts more love.