Тurkey is a multinational country. Its population is almost 80 million people, and among the local population you can find, of course, the Turks, their about 80 percent of the population, but also the Kurds, and the Greeks, and Arabs, and Iranians, and immigrants from the countries of the North Caucasus, the former Soviet Union. Of all the States in which Islam is recognized as an official religion, Turkey is the most tolerant of all religions, customs, and morals. Residents of the resort towns and cities of Ankara, Istanbul, Izmir, and Antalya are more Europeanized than the population of the regions, whose mentality is regulated by more traditional religious and social attitudes and norms of behavior. The resort zone in Turkey is not the best place to evaluate Turkish men in general. The resort life of the country has formed its own rules of the game, thus distorting the perception of Turkish culture, and first of all, the Turks themselves. The real Turk, who absorbed the mother"s milk in the Turkish upbringing, is significantly different from the resort macho. A boy in the family is often raised by his mother. In Turkey, there is even a saying: "Boys are closer to their mother and girls to their father. Therefore, fathers are often very happy with the birth of their daughters. That is when the mentality and areas of responsibility of boys and girls are laid down. The religious aspect, despite the secular nature of the country, has brought a lot to the existing system of education. Most often, boys, as well as girls, do not have sexual experience before marriage. These are the requirements of the Koran, which are strictly observed in the Eastern regions and less strictly in the Western part of Turkey. It is for this reason that both boys and girls try to marry early or to marry. But in recent years the situation has started to change slowly. Young boys gain sexual experience before marriage because there was such an opportunity, and Turkish society turns a blind eye to this fact. And in this regard, the marriageable age of men in the big cities of Turkey has increased significantly. In large cities, there are a lot of bachelors accumulated over thirty. But there is another explanation - financially interested Turks are very demanding to the grooms, and therefore in the big city, where the people from the province flock to, losers in business are in the ranks of unclaimed grooms. Today in Turkey there is an old and new tradition of family creation. And, the old tradition is very slowly yielding to the new, or rather, there is a certain updated, modernized version of it. The old tradition is well known. Its essence is that parents or relatives create pairs of young people with little or no knowledge of the bride and groom. But such a rigid tradition at the moment has survived only in remote corners of Turkey or the parents of the young guy can resort to this trick, if they do not want to marry a son with a foreigner. He is immediately looking for a bride from a recommended and respected family. Another way of getting married is to marry him in the same way as in the East. It is not uncommon for older Turks with average income to resort to it, who are sitting in the grooms. They practically buy a young wife in a poor province close to the border with Georgia, Iran or Syria. Of course, the influence of European culture is also evident in conservative Turkey. There are not many children in modern urban families now, and this is reflected in the attitude of parents towards them. Children are pampered and given freedom of choice - young people choose their own couple, but the traditional upbringing comes to light here as well. Young Turks choose their husbands or wives, and they do so on the basis of their cultural heritage. Girls choose better-off young people and boys choose virtuous and moral girls. Many Turks still want to marry a virgin quite seriously. This just confirms the continuity of traditions - how the Turks see and evaluate the family and mother of their children. I would also like to note that the younger the Turks are, the more they consider the public opinion. But it is quite logical, young Turks are often more dependent on material terms. Also, when choosing a wife, love and feelings are not the first places. Here it is worth paying attention to the mentality of Turkish men in the matter of relations with women in general. For the Turks the issue of spotless female honor is very important because the wife is a woman he will have all his life, there are not so many divorces in Turkey. It is the aspect of possession and possession that determines his attitude towards any woman and underpins sexual relations. Morality, commitment to tradition and full trust are fundamental for him in choosing his wife. He cannot bear the thought that his wife and mother of his children had been possessed by someone before him...
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