Often the relationship between two lovers collapses simply because the woman does not understand the differences between female and male psychology.
After all, in the life of any active man, there are ups and downs in the life of any man, regardless of the current level of achievement, and it is important to reach out to him in difficult moments, taking into account the peculiarities of male psychology.
What to do if a man has given up? How to be useful to the guy? What to do if a man fails to achieve what he wants? These and other subtleties I will reveal in this article.
Classic genre
- Honey, is something wrong with you?
- Nothing special...
- I can read everything in your face and eyes! What is it?
- Calm down, it's okay...
- You're hiding something from me, as usual?! Let's confess!
That's how in one moment a girl uses all the dubious techniques: curiosity, high tone, intransigence, intense intonation, pickles. A whole portion of inadequate behavior instead of basic words of support for his man.
And he is depressed, in his life came a black band, a real "emotional pit" from which he will not get out.
And the person closest to him, his woman, is allegedly "helping" to tear out the grave of his relationship. Although she herself does not guess about it, trying hard to do something for the good.
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Dear girls, I'll make a reservation, it's not your fault. You do the best you can. But...
If you want to support a man in the right way, so that a man leaves his "cave" as soon as possible and starts to love and respect you as a woman, even more, continue reading the article.
6 types of women who want to "support" their husband or man
In my opinion, there are several types of behavior of the fair sex, when a man suddenly needs the support of his passion. Sometimes such "assistance" from outside looks more than funny, so I suggest that readers ironically look at each of the types and try to guess among themselves or their friends.
A female counselor. She is sure that she knows better how to live a man. How to communicate with employees and your mother. Well, she seems to know her sides better. Often such women gather in the ladies' backstage and express surprise to each other that their men do not understand how to build their own destiny.
A woman is a bad teacher. "I told you...", "You didn't listen to me...", "I was right... This one is the one who, crying, is fervently convinced that by doing so she teaches the man not to make mistakes in the future.
A woman friend. "Come on, you're upset. Everything will be ok. Life goes on. It happens to everyone. Such a friend in the female guise. Often such women were friends with boys as children. From there, and adopted the "manners".
A female psychologist. Dear girls, if you ask a man the following questions, it is about you. "Do you want to talk about it? What are you worried about? Let's talk about it?
After that, you will most likely interview the "patient" in detail, ask a line of leading questions, do a subtle Freudian analysis, arrange for placement techniques, RPT, gestalt therapy, and other psychological stuff.
Your man literally falls into the hands of an experienced doctor who puts him on the shelves.
And now he regrets that he has entrusted himself and his gloomy thoughts to his beloved woman, who has accurately divided the world into black and white. In addition, the psychologist has forgotten that she initially attracted a man as a woman, not as a specialist in any area of life.
A female compassionate. If you want to see a mirror reflection of your face, distorted by the flour of suffering, you need to her. She sincerely expresses his participation, she does not care about any details of your troubles.
And that's why she is ready to listen to the man for hours and nod in return, iron on the top and wipe his tears with her handkerchief. In the "jacket" of the compassionate woman, you can cry non-stop.
Pressing her beloved to the chest, the woman thinks: to show indifference - means to upset the man even more. And they sit together in their own mourning for two.
A woman-rescue worker. Often she has all the above skills and looks omnipotent. But above all, she also does everything she can for her chosen one. And for her chosen one.
It is not a problem for her to write a resume for a man and make the distribution of documents on the rating companies if the man suddenly got fired. She will not hesitate to take a loan or give her money to the startups of her beloved.
"He is my dear person! Yes?
Setting the accents
So, did you get to know yourself at least one of the points? Or maybe I missed a type? You can write about it in the comments.
And remember the most important thing. So, what do I need to understand before I give a literate model of female behavior?
However, he is of strong sex, so he should always and everywhere show only his own competence. And do not let yourself be weak, although you have the strength that you are trying to become his faithful assistant.
I'll give you a good example.
I have a girlfriend, Katya, who worked as a business consultant before she got married. So... She was also approached by men.
"The strangeness" that she shared with me was that men were very offended when she started consulting but were very grateful when she just listened to them. It is important for the man that you hear, listen and listen to him at a difficult moment.
The benefits of such behavior are sometimes many times greater than the benefits of her advice. Why? If you are observant, then you have noticed more than once how men become closed in the hour of failure and trials.
And this is not only the fault of nature, conceived and created them as such, but partly the women themselves: maybe once your man and shared painful, but what did you do in response? We listened - it's an incredible lot, thank you very much.
But, immediately, they barely stopped listening and began to advise without asking for it. And the man immediately concluded that it is better not to share next time absolutely nothing. It is much safer to become a snail. Do you understand now?
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How can we support a man competently and effectively?
1. Try to ask him carefully about his feelings - without hysterical notes in his voice, without the cat's curiosity and desire to "ask for the sake of a question".
2. Listen - peacefully, sincerely, with an understanding look and mute participation.
3. Express faith in him as a man - for real, with optimism and motivation to his further victories.
4. Do not doubt that he will cope with any misfortune and misfortune - show firmness in his support, be unshaken confidence in his hero.
5. To know and see him as the smartest man in the world - without exaggeration, wanting to take the side of the one who always makes the right decisions.
Report of one of the participants of my training:
How to support a man correctly
But what to do if all the above tips do not work because the man is closed and irritated by any of your attempts to "help"?
Take care of yourself, darlings:). And when he finally comes out of his "bunker", start to rejoice and continue to love.
P. S. I am not writing all this to make life easier for "poor men".
On the contrary. It is a part of what leads to a truly harmonious relationship when a man is purposeful and successful, and a woman is happy, beautiful and protected. And love is long (not the first night, month, year or three).
That's all. Thank you for reading my works. Happiness and love to you.