There is a belief that narcissistic personalities are much more successful than typical personalities, even though the latter can be more objectively talented and capable. Let's see what the secret to success of the former is. Does it help them to open any doors with elementary impudence, or does the narcissistic type have real features in the "basic equipment" of the personality that distinguish it from simply capable colleagues?
"Wikipedia" suggests that narcissism is a property of character, consisting of excessive narcissism and overrated self-esteem, in most cases not corresponding to reality. And overestimated self-esteem, as you know, is based on unhealthy positions of the Ego. Is it possible to assert that narcissus is a person with a swinging Ego? In my opinion, no. And it is important to distinguish "daffodils" from people with a swinging Ego because the difference between these two types of personality is significant.
"There is no one kinder than a daffodil while you live by his rules..." Elizabeth Bowen, an English-Irish writer.
When it comes to narcissus in its purest form, its character and behavior are characterized by a sense of superiority over others. Always and everywhere he will feel above others at least on his head; the narcissist is convinced of his uniqueness and exclusivity of his abilities and talents; high rigidity in his feelings. Failure to show such human qualities as compassion and compassion; absolute conviction that everyone around him is jealous. According to the classics of the psychological genre, often he shows envy to others; maniacal thirst for success and unhindered movement towards him. On this last point, the opinion about daffodils may diverge, because many people tend to think that daffodils are generally only ambitious in words. They are "soap bubbles. Inflated ego is not supported by anything. The polar opinion about daffodils is that they are objectively successful. And the higher the level of narcissism, the greater the success. There is both in life. A vivid example of the second option, for example, is the well-known comrade Samokhvalov from the movie "Service Romance". And his narcissism was backed up by those achievements. But the first version of the personality - it is rather . And here it is more about people with just a swinging Ego. Let's call such conditionally Ego-Ya.
The difference between these individuals is the level of action.
Narcissus feels great at this level, although not always able to boast of brilliant results, but the Ego-I usually only juggles loudly with words. Narcissus knows how to masterfully bend over someone, not counting the process below its dignity. After all, you have to bend over under the right, necessary person - and, of course, not just for nothing, but in the name of big goals. The ability to achieve one's goals by any means is one of the main behavioral patterns of narcissus. It will be extremely difficult for a person with Ego-I to "turn around" like that. He has no ambitions and goals beyond the horizon, and therefore the motivation leaves much to be desired. But the main thing is that he is weak in spirit and will. This is where the strong dissonance between expectations/claims of life and the level of personal responsibility for achieving the goal appears. Ego-I am mostly strong in "snorting", saying behind people's backs diagnoses such as "Who is he at all?! I won't go to him and talk to him! That's where all the feverish activities of Ego-I end. And as a rule, he remains in the position of the second violin, at the same time regularly criticizing this place as unworthy of his glorious personality. Narcissus, on the other hand, does not simply put himself above the others. For the narcissist, an overestimated ego is a kind of self-identification, an integral part of himself, as well as the main leitmotif of all life, often carrying it at all pairs to the cherished dreams and goals. Yes, and, indeed, why would he stay on the sidelines, if he truly believes that the coolest thing? "In your faith, you will be given" - biblical wisdom, carrying the echoes of the basic principles of psychology. By the way, Sigmund Freud believed that some narcissism is an integral part of any human being from his birth, and was the first to use this term in psychology. And Andrew Morrison argued that a reasonable amount of healthy narcissism allows an adult to balance his or her needs with those of others. That is, we see that the same trait can be unfolded in both a beautiful dignity and an unattractive disadvantage.
IF COLLEGE OR Beginners – Narcissus
Because daffodils rarely change, it should be taken for granted by others as a fact, although it can complicate the life of the collective. A man with an Ego-Ya is much more harmless in this respect: he will sparkle and calm down. The story with daffodils is quite different. Such employees are extremely unpredictable in their manifestations and cautious in their relations with them.