In continuation to the previous post......positive thinking is somehow not so easy to take root in the minds of people.
Imagine two pictures in front of you. One shows a beautiful meadow with flowers, a blue sky with white clouds... and another painting, for example," the Scream " by Edvard Munch.
If I ask which of the paintings evokes more positive emotions, all without exception point to a floral landscape. But even if "Cry" you only left your sight and immediately took him in horror, as if you didn't want to forget this picture, but unfortunately, it will always float in your memory.
This once again proves that the negative is easier to penetrate into our consciousness and leaves there even unpleasant, but quite a deep trace. And in fact-it is transmitted to us with mother's milk, with the memory of the negative experience of our ancestors and just stored in our subconscious.
But how to get rid of it, of the negative?
And how to replace it with positive?
There is an opinion that it is impossible to get rid of negative emotions on "one-two-three". You can recognize it, accept it, and let it go. But, alas, this emotion will remain. However, looking ahead, I will say that there are techniques and approaches (in different supporting professions) that really help to rebuild emotional reactions. And make the positive attitude stronger than the negative fears.
As for fear, it once helped our ancestors to survive in the wild, to escape from the attacking beast.
In modern life, this same fear is more of a hindrance than a help, because it begins to penetrate into different areas of our lives — from personal to family and professional. Fear of failure, disappointment, fear of loss, rejection, dislike ... the List goes on and on.
If one of the spouses feels towards the other fear of being misunderstood, fear to Express their opinion or voice their desire - this will inevitably lead to the fact that the spouses will not be able to openly, "heart to heart" to communicate with each other and between them there may be a gap that provokes a lot of other negative feelings.
There are no people who would not have experienced negative emotions, including in the family, in relationships with the closest and dearest people.
But truly happy are those who do not succumb to their spontaneous feelings, but also able to produce positive emotions – joy, happiness, love, charity, kindness... the One who every day several times says "I love you", raises to a higher frequency level, not only themselves but also their loved ones. Even flowers need to hear that they are loved.
We have all heard it many times.
But why is it not so simple? And how do you bring a positive in your life, in your family?
It's a matter of habit. A positive habit is difficult to develop. We know this and therefore the introduction of positive thinking in our lives or postpone "for later", or begin to try to practice, but we are drawn to the routine, and we forget.
If you know this, you know about positive thinking and for many years trying to introduce it into your life, but constantly or periodically slide into the negative – you will help the study of psychology, training, as well as self-coaching and coaching. I always talk about it, because I constantly take advice and coaching from specialists in my field. And it works!
Checking for positive
One of the rules of working with goals, which helps to make this work effective, is called " checking goals for positive."
How? And how can this be applied to your own daily life?
Here's an example.
When setting goals for a week or a day, write them down on paper.
Did they include phrases like "I want to stay awake in the morning" or "Don't be late for meetings"? If Yes-ask the question: "what do I want instead "not to be late"? And rephrase the goal in a positive way. That is, "I Want to Wake up on time at 6: 30 every morning", " I will come to any meeting at least 3 minutes before the agreed time."
The same can be done in emotionally difficult situations. When the inner voice says ," I don't want this anymore!"Immediately stop! Question itself :" and that I want instead"? Write it down.