If one of the following points is relevant to you, then this article will be useful.
Are the man lying on the couch and playing games? Doesn't the man want to grow and progress? The man does not believe in himself and doubts the undertakings? The man is purposeful, and you want him to be even more successful?
Before I begin, I want to express my sincere gratitude for the interest in this issue.
In my opinion, masculinity is manifested in the results of life. For myself, my family, my surroundings, society. Personally, it is difficult for me to respect lazy, idle men. And I don't want to justify them in any way.
But I understand that I can be useful in sharing my vision of how a woman can influence such a man, even if he was brought up or became such (which is also often the case).
So...
Six steps to inspire a man
1. Are you inspired by yourself?
99% of the girls and women who ask me this question are, in fact, devoid of inspiration themselves. They are not happy with their own lives, although it may look like nothing.
Yes, yes, I already hear: "I have circumstances! When am I going to do it?! Work, children, credit.
Take off your clothes and go to the mirror. Honestly look into your eyes, then look at yourself from head to toe, turn around, seeing yourself from different angles. And now again in the eyes...
And ask:
"Am I inspired?"
Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? What are your goals (which charge)?
Two magic words: Take care of yourself!
Your appearance, your body, your mood, your hobbies, your life.
Inspire yourself first! And you will see how your man starts to move. Next, observe the following points, so that the movements begin to translate into actions...
2. Stop criticizing, judging, evaluating, comparing.
For it makes no sense. This only aggravates the situation.
"Why don't you do anything?
"When will you find a job?
"Sergei (neighbor) is so cool, but you are not.
"I'm tired of waiting.
This can work for a short period of time. But "from under the stick" is not the best motivation in a relationship.
3. to turn off the regime of a psychologist, coach, consultant, mother, grandmother, mentor.
Undoubtedly, you know better how to live, build a career, develop business, communicate with parents :). But if a man does not ask for your advice, it means that he does not need it!
"Yaroslav, what to do when a man asks for advice? Then you can play a role-playing game "Coach and the client"?
Also no. Write down a magic phrase (and tell it to all the girls you know):
-...Dear, if you ask, of course, I can advise you which employee you should hire. Yes, I have a modest experience of (main) HR (10 years), but I'm sure you know better and can make the best decision! You are so smart and strong (smile).
-I want to hear your advice. (He is adamant).
-Okay. I think it's better to hire Sergey Petrov, that's why. But the final decision is up to you:) Tzem in the cheek.
4. "Advice" technique.
"Honey. I understand that now is not an easy time. At the same time, I want to hear your advice: what do I have to fix/improve to help you get a job/start a business/resolve a question. I agree that I am not perfect and I have a place to grow. And I'm worried about us, I'm scared... What if I get fired from work... What are we going to live on? Tell me what I should do.
5. Do you believe in your man? Let's just be honest...?
If you put your hand on your heart, you don't believe that he can do something, then perhaps you don't believe in yourself or why do you need such a relationship?
It is important for a man to know and hear (not seldom) that a woman believes in him, no matter what. Especially during difficult periods of life.
You should start believing in a man with thoughts in your head. What do you think a man - that's what he will become.
6. Continue to love.
You have not misheard. Continue to express love.
And what do most people do when something goes wrong in a relationship? They are offended, angry, distant, manipulated, etc. And the further you go, the less [once] a lasting union reminds you of the love of two people.
But if you love a man, you shouldn't "play games" in an attempt to draw attention to yourself.
Start with step 1. It is he who is usually the key reason why a man lies on the couch or stops loving and respecting you. Start with yourself, yes!