What could be easier – communicate and be positive at the same time! Right?
Of course!
Praise a person for everything or sometimes Express dissatisfaction with his actions?
Always use beautiful words or pay attention only to the essence of the conversation?
As it turned out, in our society there are many myths about positive communication.
Myth one. You have to talk a lot.
YES, you need to actively make contact with the people around you.
BUT we must not talk a lot, but enough.
Do not limit yourself, but do not tire your family, friends and acquaintances with your talkativeness.
Respect other people, do not take their time to talk about anything and endless transfusions "from empty to empty."
And before you embark on a long argument, be sure to listen to your interlocutor!
But listening and patience are some of the main qualities needed for positive communication.
Remember: Positive communication should be easy and enjoyable for all participants!
A second myth. You have to joke and laugh all the time.
YES, positive communication is based on good humor, positive emotions and assumes a good mood in all interlocutors.
BUT all jokes, anecdotes and jokes must necessarily be appropriate, fun and not offensive.
I call this behavior unconstructive positive and see it as an unhealthy extreme.
And, as you know, everything is good in moderation. So don't overdo it!
Remember: Positive conversation should be constructive! That is, the conversation of cheerful, but adult and civilized people.
Myth the third. You just need to say beautiful words.
YES, there is a certain positive vocabulary and the use of words such as" great"," wonderful"," excellent"," well done " is welcome.
And at the same time all the words and phrases that you say should be to the place and time. In addition, it is very important in what tone and in what context they are pronounced.
Always praise the person, say nice words and compliments sincerely, from the heart, then your conversation will be truly positive.
Beautiful words alone are not enough to create an atmosphere of positive communication!
Myth the fourth. You have to listen and be silent all the time.
YES, it is necessary to give the interlocutor to speak, to be able to listen carefully to him and to show at the same time sincere interest.
And it is also important to be able to maintain a conversation.
After all, in any conversation involves at least two people, because each of them must both listen and talk. Skewing in any direction carries a negative connotation.
Even if one of you loves to tell, and the other-to remain silent, do not abuse it.
Remember: if two or more people communicate, you should talk and listen in turn!
The fifth myth. Have to agree with someone, to adjust to his style of communication and mood.
YES, do not argue all the time and try to show that you are smarter, more authoritative and in some ways better than other people.
And at the same time to be positive – does not mean to be malleable and weak!
Positive communication does not assume the position of a "shapeless amoeba" who needs to speak and look "like everyone else."
Remember, you are a person! It is important for you to be yourself!
Respect the opinion of the interlocutor, but do not be afraid to Express your point of view, regardless of whether it coincides with someone else and finds approval.
Positive communication is a conversation on equal terms, without fawning, flattery and demonstration of superiority over others!
Remember: any positive conversation involves tact and constant search for a compromise!
Myth six. It's better to lie than to upset a person.
YES, it is necessary to cost the conversation so that each of its participants was in a good mood.
And at the same time "a lie for salvation" is still a lie that sooner or later will be revealed.
And often the consequences of such a "noble" lie are very deplorable.
But to inform the person of any, even the most negative facts and positive enough manner. At the same time, even if you do not manage to keep the momentary mood of the interlocutor, then you will certainly save him from subsequent disappointments associated with deception.
The basis of positive communication is sincerity and honesty!
Myth of the seventh. The important thing is not the process of conversation, but its result.
YES, in the course of positive communication, each of its participants should make a practical benefit for themselves. At the same time, it can be expressed as a salary increase, receiving a long-awaited gift or help with the household, and in friendly support, advice or just an opportunity to talk.
And it is important not only to achieve the desired result, but also to get more and enjoy the process of communication.
Positive conversation involves not just setting a goal and achieving it, but also getting the simple joys of human communication!
Myth eight. The main thing that I got pleasure from communication.
YES, positive communication should be pleasant, cheerful and joyful.
And at the same time, as your interlocutor is a person who also builds relationships, because it is interesting to him with you, easy, nice, well, or at least it is beneficial to him such communication.
And because "one-sided game" in the matter of obtaining positive emotions is not a positive communication.
In relationships with people, do not try to be just a consumer. Do not strive only to take the pleasant and useful for yourself, but also give.
Give people your care, love and gratitude! And believe me, everything given to the world will return to you many times!
Remember: Positive communication is always built on the principle of "win-win"!