Is there any compatibility in marriage or is it Love? What to do if you are incompatible with your partner? How to choose a perfectly compatible person for a happy relationship?
This is just a small part of the dilemmas that you can get answers to in the current publication.
I do not pretend to be the ultimate authority, but I assure you that I continue to devote a considerable amount of time to research on the subjects of attention (and not only).
It all started years ago... I didn't understand why I couldn't get away with the women I was attracted to like a magnet in the long run.
However, their good intentions in the relationship cannot be denied. Both partners seem to be trying to be positive heroes, but still, something is wrong. Familiar?
In one of my visits to a psychologist, I voiced a problem with women. What he cut off quickly: "And you are not looking at the wrong people at all!
"How is it? - I was surprised. "I look at the attractive ones. I like bright, spectacular women who stand out from the crowd.
-You're a particular man of a logical mind who likes to be in the spotlight, with a changeable mood and plans, right?
-Yes, that's right.
-And you're definitely paying attention to the same women, aren't you?
I was shocked because I hadn't tried to put it all in words before. Hell, yeah, that's right, but what's wrong with that?
Then my psychologist told me to dig deeper into the strengths and weaknesses of people. And personally I should pay attention to girls of this type: fragile, dreamy, a little bit in themselves and with a radiant smile.
(I deliberately do not go into professional psychological terms, so that the essence of the article was clear to everyone).
Compatibility in love
And I've been digging. Months like this for three or four months. What I saw:
1. It's much easier to fall in love and find common ground with someone like us.
2. A partner with whom we will be comfortable in the long term, not the fact that it will be easy in the initial "lapping".
3. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. The ideal couple is when there is complementarity.
I do not want you to get confused about compatibility in love and marriage after reading this article. So I will point out the most important aspects.
If you are an extrovert.
There are many definitions of extroverts. Let me put it this way (without pretending to be true), an extrovert is a person whose energy is directed outward. It doesn't mean that he's always talking or there's a lot of it.
For example, I am an extrovert, but by virtue of my upbringing, I can be quite restrained in certain situations. But if you see me in the case, look at my large gestures - it becomes clear that I am an extrovert.
And I paid attention to women extroverts. And it was easy and even fascinating for us in the early stages of the relationship. But at some point, it became difficult for us. Two extroverts.
When I wanted to rest and gently asked to talk less, it was perceived as if I didn't appreciate her nature.
Everything was different with an introvert.
It's comfortable enough for such a person not to be active outside most of the time. Extrovert + introvert = harmony. One says the other listens. One acts, the other accepts.
The second (less essential than the first) parameter of the human psyche is logic or ethics.
Logic is often serious. If he smiles, the smile is quite typical and monotonous. In most photos, the face is serious and restrained. Getting into an uncomfortable situation where you need to be convincing, will use facts and logic.
A lot of logic in politics and business.
Ethics. A person who can play on emotions. Often, and emotionally, he is. The smile is wide, playing. In which you can drown. Getting into an uncomfortable situation where you need to be convincing, will play on feelings, emotions, compassion.
A lot of ethics in show business, TV, cinema and similar spheres.
And again the same nuance.
Two logic will find common ground faster because they so well understand each other. And then what? Everything can become relatively boring. A great couple when partners complement each other. Logic + ethics.
Marriage compatibility
Returning to the error that most people make in terms of compatibility in marriage and love:
If you ask a strong woman who is often either a logical extrovert or an ethical extrovert: What kind of men do you like?
What answer will we hear? Strong, confident, courageous, active, etc. men.
The truth is that, yes, it is with this type of men, they will quickly find common ground, fall in love, get along. But after the euphoria, the first emotions - begin misunderstanding and conflicts, which each time to live more and more difficult.
For example, a woman's logic extrovert will be excellent in conjunction with introverted ethics. Yes, his image probably does not broadcast brutality and specificity, but it does not deny the presence of male qualities and the desire to take responsibility for his woman.
Compatibility between man and woman
Key thoughts:
1. Understanding compatibility in marriage and love is not a magic pill, just like being in love in the first days/months/years is no guarantee that you will be happy for years to come.
This is just one of the tools that can bring greater awareness and responsibility to relationships, and thus harmony. The main thing is not to overdo it.
Understanding the fact that each person has his or her own strengths and weaknesses, and has "compatible" and "non-compatible" partners, allows you to be flexible towards your man or woman.
For example, two extroverts who get tired of each other can spend time "resting" from each other. Personally, I do not see anything terrible in this if the partners consciously choose it.
Two introverts, who can become bored with each other, can add more variety to their lives and try to speak out loud about their inner world.
2. Don't be glad to find a new reason why your relationship is "not so good.
Excellent irresponsible position: "Has the relationship deteriorated? Well, that's because love has passed, I guess. You can't tell your heart what to do.
And now we can explain it this way: "Well, that's because we are two extroverts. In the article, I recently read it.
Don't be like that.
3. Whatever your partner is, nature is laid down: a man wants to be needed, a woman wants to be protected.
And all those recommendations that I write in the blog mainly for women in relation to men - work, regardless of the type of man.
4. Should I start a relationship with an "incompatible" man?
Listen to your intuition, analyze your brain to some extent, be a true woman, enjoy, live, the decision will come to itself.
5. Challenge the ideal image of the man you are looking for in the crowd. Try to talk to the type of man that previously seemed unacceptable to you because of the differences in character.
I did it in my time and was amazed that I didn't see any women with whom I really feel good. Who complements my logic and activity with their emotions and acceptance.
And finally...
If people at school were still being told
"Dear boys and girls! You will see a lot of films in your life about love, which is called the word "love" there. Don't get confused, please. Love is a short-term thing.
Love is infinite. Take care of WHY partner you would be happy for a long time, and with what - voluptuously two Weeks in Thailand. Most likely, they are different people!
Have you finished reading it to the end? Low bow to you.