Just yesterday I heard the girlfriend of her 3-year-old son call her bunny, baby, chicken ten times within five minutes. This is an example of the influence of the mother on what kind of man her son will grow up to be.
It is also pointless to deny the female influence on the present and future of the man with whom she has a relationship.
I agree that what we are going to talk about below are trifles, and there are topics much more important. But if you apply my recommendations, you will be able to become a witness to how "little things" can take the relationship with a man to a new level.
Is it nice for a man when he is called a diminutive-tender word? Yes, it is nice.
Is it nice for a man in a period of despair to be pitied by a woman? Yes, it's nice.
BUT IT'S NICE TO HAVE A WOMAN FEEL SORRY FOR HIM.
Is it appropriate to do so in terms of relationship psychology?
No!
"Why? After all, it is pleasant for a man. Female tenderness, warmth, affection.
Do you really think that it is pleasant = competent?
Well, for example, I remember my first relationship, I complained to my girlfriend about my life, about my parents, crying about how insecure I am a guy, how difficult it is to work now. She felt sorry for me. I was very pleased, I was calming down. And I told everyone how cool she was, supporting me.
And then what? Nothing. Did that make me feel more confident? No. Did my relationship with my parents get better? No. Was I able to start earning normal money? No. But it was so nice when I was sorry. I don't blame the girl in any way. I just give an example of when a man is pleased but in fact the only degradation.
So here we are...
It's a similar situation with the diminutive, caressing words... the man pleases. And what EFFECT are these words? Have you thought about it? I suggest replacing with not less pleasant, but strong references.
Example with my friends
When a friend or a good friend calls me, I often answer in style:
Yes, the winner
Yes, God.
Hi, world champion [scope of the acquaintance]
Why am I doing this? I like to inspire another person. It costs me nothing, a few words. But EVERY time I hear, how much this treatment charges my environment.
Addressing you
Often we turn to each other, we turn to you. It looks funny in public places.
In this way, we express respect, admiration, and inspiration for new achievements.
"Paul, you are simply the best. An example to follow. Yes, we smile, we understand that this is like a game. But it doesn't cancel the fact of inspiration.
And women who understand this, we can not but respect.
How to call a man
Wise women are ready to talk about what to call a man:
Name (full name). Yaroslav (not Yarichka, Yarichka, Yarichka, etc.)
By the name of the patronymic (Yaroslav Andreevich)
A real man.
Honey...
Love...
Oh, honey, honey.
My husband.
My hero.
My Lord.
My god.
My winner
My lord
My Champion
My King.
My best.
My Teacher.
Your option?
Those who are unpleasant to cut inside with the thought that it is worth naming a man like that, dare I ask: did you definitely attract/choose/create/develop such a relationship that brings joy rather than heaviness?
You can even explain that you like to call it that. For example, Alexander.
I agree that not all men are worthy to be called that. So surround yourself with worthy people.
Therefore, the task you, first for a month, and if you like the results, then apply the whole life:
Gradually (if abruptly, then men may suspect some trick, perceive the bayonets) to eradicate from the lexicon of diminutive-tender treatment of the male part of the population.
Love, caress, tenderness, tenderness, care for a man can be shown in many other ways. I tell you a few things:
-I am happy to meet a man from work
-to make delicious dishes
-Hugs
-YOU, your tone of communication with a man, your manner of speaking, your gestures
-Even "Honey", we can talk with such tenderness that a man will shine with your warmth
More often than not, ask yourself a question:
"How does a man feel about me?"
Is it the way you want to see him: strong, confident, motivated, loving, caring?
What you sow, you reap. The choice is yours.