Son summer vacation is not at home, QQ in the friends laugh to me, you two couples can enjoy the "two people", the faint smile, old husband and wife, and there are those idle elegant Ah, do not know what time to start, the words between us less and less, the day each busy, in the evening, a computer, he played his game,
I know that this is the so-called“post-marital silence syndrome", some are just a simple question, but there are no heart-warming words. In fact, women are mostly emotional, I hope that no matter how many years of marriage, he can also be charming in the eyes of his husband, but also let him spoil. But it turns out, married for a long time, the lover will really become a loved one, the love of the left hand holding the right hand is pale as white water. He only asked me to marry his son, and I quarreled after N Times also slowly habit, perhaps marriage is so, plain and simple.
He also asked why he had nothing to say to me, saying: "I know things in life, and I don't want to transition to work."Or every man is so, that I assume that pressure is a kind of love. Husband is a very realistic man, he thinks that marriage is a real-life, he also felt that couples do not need to be pleasing each other. When a bad mood will feel very hopeless, such a man how to stay together for life? But looking back, there is nothing wrong with him, he does not smoke and drink, and he does not like the rich men in the world, he just a little reality, a little silence.
There are couples often fight, hit what hurt words will say, they are advised not to divorce, but two people are reluctant because they feel that the couple quarrel is normal. Maybe it really is like the phrase“marriage is like a shoe", some surface happiness, but only in the eyes of happiness, and some people playing fooling but a lifetime. So there are no words to say is actually more hurt than silence, after marriage silence is actually a kind of cold violence, but the people who use it never know that it can hurt the invisible.
Some people say that marriage once there is silence syndrome, it will arouse the alert, but the problem is that only one party feel that there is a problem is useless, have complained, but the husband feels that life is pretty good, maybe he likes a relatively quiet life, and I am uneasy with the status quo. I also know that marital conflict is not a unilateral problem, I always understand this point, so in the face of marital silence, I also reflect on myself, or really is too greedy, the old husband and wife really unnecessary too much cliche, but when the mood is not a person sullen, and feel that life is really very boring.
Maybe I am a better woman, so when the conflict arises, I do not want to take the initiative to show weakness. In fact, some people say that women should learn to take the initiative to show weakness, this is to give the man face, and let the man take care of their own. Married for a long time will really get tired of each other, so some people propose to separate within the marriage, or the same bed, or just want to use the space distance to keep the couple fresh. Others adopted the "trial divorce", the earlier the couple because the child is too small to sign the "trial divorce agreement" and triggered a big discussion while retaining the marriage status of non-interference with each other. But even so, some people say this is not to find a valid reason for the affair?
Happy families are similar, and the unfortunate family but each has its own reasons, always envious and laughing husband and wife, but their situation is very helpless, perhaps marriage is so, after three years of itch, seven years of it, to face is a year after a year of "after marriage silent disease".When the dead of night will feel the pillow this companion for ten years of men turned out to be so strange, remember to read a post that middle-aged women have no capital divorce, although they have not yet reached middle age, but also feel used to the comfortable life of me, the marriage only compromise. Besides this man did not have an affair, according to his own feelings for me is better, so everything is just my own do not know enough.
I do not know how many couples will have a feeling of nothing to say, for me and my husband, before the marriage of the emotional experience is relatively simple, so in the face of conflict, most will choose silence to treat. Although it has been able to solve the anger conflict, long down it is not fun. Some people may think I don't know enough, a man loyal to me without any bad habits, what else do I want? I don't know, I just know that "post-marital silence" hurts couples more than quarrels.