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Technologies are penetrating deeper and deeper into life, and therefore into relations between people and into parent-child interaction. Norms of ethics and good manners have been developed for centuries, but little is known about the features of behavior with a child who is half dipped in 4G and half leads a conversation with you in the kitchen. There are no prescribed rules, it is unclear whether the father likes the photograph in which the son is humorously photographed in his dress coat. Should you hide a post from a child in which you complain about his behavior? Should I upload a video where my daughter poses with a diploma from a trampoline school or is it not comme il faut?
Etiquette rules undergo changes with society
Now it is possible to record every step of the child and share this valuable information with the whole world. One of the achievements of civilization is the humanization of childhood. We recognize and respect the child as a full-fledged person, and the question naturally arises of what to do with a funny photo: the baby got tangled up in his feet and fell into the mud - is it fun to show friends or well? Some kind of reference is needed. Let this guideline be humanistic: the child is not a tame monkey, not an exhibition of our parental achievements, but a person who is worthy of respect.
1. Draw the line between personal and public life. If you don’t put your husband or wife in negligence for brushing your teeth, don’t show how he/she gets out of the shower, it’s better to avoid similar photos about the child on your page. If a child shares a secret with you, talks about his spiritual secret, first love or an extraordinary impression, do not write about it in the public domain, even if the story seems to you a mere trifle, a curious episode. Subsequently, after years, everything may come up, and it will be difficult for you to explain why you did not live up to children's trust.
2. Never post pictures of a naked child or a child in strong emotions. Even to artists using unusual photos of children, questions arise, what can we say about parents - they are also close and loving people. Few people will like it if the wife takes it off during a quarrel and puts it on YouTube with the caption: “What a little he is when he spits!” Meanwhile, a video recently appeared on the Internet with a crying girl who was about to leave home for Africa. It was watched by some wild thousands of people, discussed and wrote how they relate to such girls and such dads. Perhaps when she grows up, she will find it funny, but if not? Really go to Africa, where fiber-optic networks have not reached?
3. If you post photos of children, ask permission. From five years you can do this, emphasizing thereby that you recognize the importance of his opinion. Maybe the child really does not seem to be completely successful, and you will do something else.
Rely on your common sense: 300 Chinese tourists could take a picture of a child with a kitten at the foot of the Taj Mahal, so don’t be nervous when you see that your favorite head got into the photo of the sights.
4. Use a pseudonym and go to personal correspondence if you consult on social networks with specialists regarding a child and tell about his personal plan details (written at night, afraid of Snow White, spits pumpkin). Save the child from this information: someday he will be able to detect and read it. And even worse, if a photograph of a toddled baby or mother’s cry for help with an attached photograph of a nervous diathesis for children is found by cheerful classmates of a grown child - oh, what a scope for fun among the hooligans! Cyberbullying is more than a real threat to modern children.
5. Talking about your family on blogs, do not talk about what can confuse the child. This list includes not only academic setbacks, sports failures, illnesses, but also his appearance at a family celebration in crocheted trousers because the great-grandmother insisted very much. Remember that sometimes words spoken casually in the locker room interfere with someone’s political career.
6. If a child has started his page in social networks, add to his friends, but do not insist if he is not very happy and does not accept you into all his closed groups “What we do at home alone!”, “Gigantes of dance floors !!!” or "Japanese cartoons - THE BEST!" This is his space. And, probably, it is obvious that personal correspondence is a taboo, you can’t get into it, you can’t get into someone else’s pocket.
7. Do not pretend that you do not see what is difficult not to see. You can always directly ask: “What did you mean, son, when you took pictures, showing the middle finger in the direction of your school?”. If you are told that the photo is the result of a virus attack, or if you completely leave the answer, it will be most competent to leave this topic.
8. Be consistent. When a parent announces that the main thing is not victory, but participation, and on his Facebook page there are only solid children's letters for winning the olympiads, the child may have questions: who does my mom expose and who wants to see me.
It’s not very nice to show off children's successes, post emojis in the form of salutes next to diplomas if at home you only modestly approved: “Not bad, but you can perform better!” Behave so that the child does not think that your page has been hacked and now, on behalf of the parent, some stranger leads it.
9. Be open. If a trusting atmosphere is created in the family, the child will not worry when dad and mom begin to be celebrated in post-corporate personnel.
10. Do not get into the comment thread just because your child has been tagged there. Sunset “But somehow there was a case in the garage ...”, despite the wit of the story, it can make your descendant feel awkward, especially if the thread discusses highly specialized things. Do not stand up for him, even if it seemed to you that someone is not respectfully opposing him. Do not ask questions in a general conversation: “Son, what are beauty bloggers in bombers?” Ask later personally. Teens seek to get rid of annoying control, and dad, who comments on all posts with likes of the child, looks like a person hired for surveillance.
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