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1. Promise your child an idyll
“There is a tasty gruel, and Lucy and Seryozha play policemen, and a dice fortress, and a fun round dance, and such a fun physical education teacher,” the dads and mothers comfort those children who in the morning do not show much desire to rush to the garden.
The child believes in adults, so he comes down a couple of times to find out whether things are so attractive with porridge and playing police. However, at some point, the mismatch between the pink paintings of my mother and the real situation will catch my eye. This means that the parent is either intentionally lying, or simply not in the know-how everything works.
2. Draw a garden in black
At the other extreme, it will tell the three-year-old that life is cruel: the parent is destined to serve at work so that the family does not die of starvation and the child carries his cross in a public institution. “Perhaps the teacher will be angry, the guys will fight, but after a few years you will go to school and you will be mentally prepared for the fact that they will offend you there!” In general, this is an unimportant method. Explain that there are pros and cons everywhere, and if the younger one has problems, you are always ready to listen to him and help with their solution.
3. Swearing with tutors because of trifles
Speaking of problems. If the child walked in the mittens on the wrong hand - this is not a reason to reprimand the teacher. Mittens, sandals, laces, a claim from the series: “I asked you to sleep in a T-shirt with a portrait of the president!” - all this is not worth a damn. And even more so, to spoil relations with a person who works closely with your child. If you have requests and wishes, formulate them benevolently: “Vanya is tormented by nightmares if her pajamas are fastened to the wrong button. Please see how it goes for a quiet hour. " It is necessary to resolve a serious conflict, but not from the position of “Now I will ask this fool”. In addition, the mother, who is swinging a hanger in the locker room, does not add to the child the confidence that his life is going right.
4. Show focus on the disappearance of mom
Some guys sincerely worry that the time for separation has come. They can cry and cling to the parent. There is a temptation to say: “Oh, look! Everyone is fighting there! ”- and when a person turns away, run away. In no case can this be done. Even if you are going to call the teacher in 20 minutes with a caring question: "Well - doesn’t howl?" Oddly enough, children generally do not understand the law of conservation of man in the space-time continuum. It may occur to them that you easily evaporate, and even horror! - You are not going to pick them up today after the garden. This, you see, is unnerving.
5. Forget about the ritual of transmitting affection
When a parent flies past the teacher without greetings, swiftly smacked the child on the cheek and shouts from the street: “Socks are in the bag!” It is a losing way. A child feels more relaxed if his mother greets everyone in a nice place with a smile, speaks with a teacher in a friendly manner, and then brings his Alyosha to her: “Mary Vasilyevna, Alyosha brought his plush rat, really wanted to introduce you to her. Alyosha, Mary Vasilievna told me that she liked the rats, she would be happy to talk with you about them. ” If the mother organized the ritual correctly, it will be easier for the child to be imbued with the offers of the teacher, even if she suddenly offers to learn the quadrille.
6. To bribe
Do not walk on the slippery bribe path with either the child or the caregiver. Already at the door of the group, the baby stomps his foot and says that he will not go to the garden. It seems that the promise of a helicopter and ice cream in the evening can save the situation. In fact, they will aggravate it. Of course, if you do not plan to buy a helicopter factory, then the rate may suddenly change, or it may be transferred to other areas: “Let's go for a walk? And what I get for this?"
With a teacher, everything is different. If you rumple her crumpled 500 rubles so that she “looks after” your daughter better, keep in mind that a person can be very offended. No need to wink and hint at chocolates by March 8, when you are told that Masha refuses to button buttons herself.
Behave correctly, be interested in how Masha behaves in a group, how she communicates and plays. This will force the teacher to closely monitor the child. And you will have time to invest money when they will collect them in a computer class by the day of the teacher.
7. Find out relationships with someone else's child
Do you intend to deal with the bastard who bit your baby? Call a bully in the corner and report back? No, this is no good. And imagine that someone else's bearded dad will catch in the corner of your child if he thinks he is pushing? Adults are responsible for resolving conflicts in the garden. Talk with the teacher and parents of the brawler, find out what is the matter and how you can help. Then tell your victim: “Vitya is very upset by the divorce of his parents, he is fighting. He is very sorry. Let's think about how you will defend yourself. Maybe until you play with him? ”
8. Ignore the rules of the garden
If you decide to take the child to the garden, it would be strange to spit on their orderly schedule and not prepare the younger ones for the fact that the institution has some rules. Caregivers often complain that parents bring their children unprepared, without self-care skills, rebelling against a forced quiet hour. Such a person may ask to be fed from a spoon, and do not know where the pantyhose is in the ass, but where in front.
The parent's task is to make it easier for a small person to live. Teach him to wear complex elements of the suit in advance, explain that the garden is a place where (there's nothing to be done) people go out for a walk building in pairs by the handles. And also there is a mode. You can rebel against a quiet hour yourself: discuss the annoying fact with the manager and write proclamations and complaints.
9. Too high hopes for state preschool education
“Wait, couldn’t you read the child Borodino? Yesterday I found out that he did not understand anything in the war of 1812! ”- a phrase addressed to the teacher of the“ Mouse-Norushka ”group will give you an amateur who is unfamiliar with the customs of the DOW. In the classes of the younger groups, the educational package consists of skating plasticine sausages and drawing rickety houses. For the English teacher to play ball with the children and teach them the two keywords “up” and “down”, you have to pay extra. What really promotes cultural development is the habits of mom and dad and the family atmosphere.
10. Take the side of the teacher
Yes, your child was picking his neighbor’s nose. Yes, he does not know how to sit upright with his arms folded. Yes, he strongly spun the carousel, and the children began to fly. Do not start reporting it with the teacher. You are on his side, you are the parent, you must protect him. You will discuss the carousel in private, but now that the head is hanging over the wall, your first task is to save the person and show that he has a reliable screen in the form of a mother. Quietly and benevolently find out what is the matter, and say that you are very sorry that this happened, and you will discuss everything with the child at home.
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