The Tokyo sports daily reported on August 8 that the husband controlled Sakai through drug dependence and that the two were actually separated seven years ago, and that their relationship had been repaired in recent years.
See here, can not help but make people angry and hate.Sakai method is too sad, her tragedy stems from his fate is controlled by men, to become a stupid woman without the will.So, from this point of view, she is emotionally, indeed a big loser, lost his fortune, lost his future, but also almost put his own life.And the poor people will have a hateful place, such a tragedy, this is Sakai himself, self-inflicted.
Why do women in marriage become a figurehead, controlled by men?In my opinion, there are three reasons.
First, from seeking a sense of security to forming a sense of dependency. Usually, women want to get married, they want to be able to get a sense of security from marriage and men, so that their body and mind have a habitat.This is the desire of all women.Women will always think that marriage is a safe harbor, as everyone knows, the water can also cover the boat.The woman who is drunk in marriage thinks that with the guarantee of marriage can resist the storm, but this situation is like the frog in the warm water, which will gradually let the woman lose her fighting spirit and become a woman who is completely attached to the man.
Second, by the influence of secular pressure, the loss of courage to change.A long time ago, Ruan Lingyu said a classic: "people can be afraid.""Women are always afraid of gossip, fame.Marriage is a gamble, and it's not a gamble.Before marriage, it is possible that a man will hide his faults until they are married.In particular, some too macho man, always let his wife become his own puppet, become a completely obedient to his machine, this many in Japan, but also in the country is not uncommon.They seize women's weaknesses, such as economic power, such as children, such as the reputation of women care, so that the full control, women are in a very passive situation, reduced to a person without thinking can only swallow.
Third, the natural weakness of the woman's bones.Although the woman now shouted up half the sky, but the weakness of the woman's Bones is a lot of existence.Woman, Your Name is weak.How powerful a woman, emotionally there will always be Bane.This time, the weak nature of the woman will continue to retreat back, until the retreat to the edge of the cliff is not yet known.Repeated tolerance will only make men look down on you, let the man more brazenly trampled on your dignity, so this game, women are doomed to lose badly.
Fourth, the woman has an ostrich attribute, a man of fantasy.Women are natural visionaries.In the face of difficulties and setbacks, most of them bury their heads like an ostrich, thinking that they will be all right.Instead of playing subjective power to solve the problem.So the problem is still there, and it's probably getting worse, and women still fantasize that men will change for the better, from being loyal to being lazy to being progressive.But these are just fantasies.Rely on fantasy to paralyze themselves, comfort yourself.
So, how can a woman avoid a controlled passive situation?The premise is that before marriage, women must do a full research work, to see if this man is really good for himself, or hide too many shortcomings everything is false?
If it is very unfortunate, on the Pirates.It's about women's intelligence.First, reconcile.For example, just some big man feelings mischievous decision, might as well sit down, talk to him, do some reconciliation and compromise.Second, decisively give up.But when it comes to the future and life, it must be to give up.This is called long pain.If you do not give up, it is a quagmire or whirlpool, not to be suffocated is to be submerged.
And stupid women compromise blindly, there are many consequences.First of all, let yourself very passive, men will feel that this woman is too good to bully, so will become aggravated step into the foot, and finally forced himself to the edge of the cliff.Secondly, the process of compromise, but also an unhappy process, no woman does not want to be spoiled to be pampered.A woman constantly back to endure what she does not want to see, such as the process of tolerance of the junior, it must be a painful ordeal, sooner or later will be mad.
Usually, women do not lose in the hands of men, they lose in their own hands.
Geyu analysis：
Faye's piece:“I have not decided to lose the courage, nor escape the lucky, I like a chess, you decide to retreat.""Figuratively describes a woman who is dominated by men.Such a woman has since lost her initiative.A woman who has no initiative will be choked and very passive.This can be described as a taboo.A woman in this situation becomes a tool or a puppet for a man.That is not to mention the realization of the value of women.
Such women, usually very naive, think that the success of men is their own success, the happiness of men is their own happiness.As everyone knows, a man after the success of the woman he was under the light of the invisible, what "military insignia have your half", it is often a woman's wishful thinking.Finally, constantly lose their self, the mentality can not be balanced, completely dependent on men, men are not only ungrateful, but also feel that she is a burden, there is no common topic, can not be common progress, not being abandoned by a cold run or depression.