Hello, I saw your article on the Sohu, considered for a long time I decided to write you this letter, my boyfriend and I met in April last year, then we can say love at first sight, soon we established a relationship, after we met a month and a half, we met both parents, two families are very satisfied with us, as we in April this year, I took the initiative to propose marriage with him, he was very happy to agree, but also with his parents to discuss May Day to my family to settle the marriage, may Day Two family sat together to discuss the marriage, his parents disagree with us, the reason is that my mother did not open the door to his his father (my family is a single parent, my mother said at the time hope that his father later give me a little fatherly, if I want to have more temper his father), he told me his parents on May 3, then told me that“the two of us have no problem, now to the outside”, but to the fourth he texted me he said a word, but when he appeared to see me very impatient to let me rush to work, now I really do not know how to give up this relationship is good, I really can not be reconciled, do not give up now he has changed, I do not know how to explain to convince him，Convince his parents.Qiu Xin sister, rare apart from breaking up the two of us really have no other way to go?
Autumn heart reply：
From what you say, to tell the truth, I do not see what harmonious happiness in your relationship, it is worth you to fight for now?When dating, you do not agree on the pattern of love, he likes to bring loved ones to love, you like the two world, this has not been coordinated, this compartment you have asked to marry, and then in the process of discussing the wedding, even because of some disagreement can be thoughtless.If it is not your ability to express problems, it is indeed the case, I really feel that your relationship and the attitude of each of you related to the good play, marriage is a major event in life, how to become a family-like in the eyes of you people?
Love can have medicine to eat regret, not for everyone can turn away, of course, modern marriage also have medicine to eat regret, but the consequences are much more serious.A man such no opinion, in his mind, your position is minimal, you persistent reluctantly want to restore, really because do not give up this love?Or too unwilling to lose?It is safe to walk, such a man, such a relationship, trying to fight back, can not give you the happiness you want.Give up the wrong, is to give the right opportunity.
Qiu Xin sister: Hello!
I've been following your blog for a long time,and when I'm in a bad mood, I come here to look for strength, and today I have the courage to write down my questions.People always fear the unknown and uncertain, and my fear comes from pessimistic predictions about my feelings and future marital life.I've been with my boyfriend for two years now, and I've always felt that we didn't have a good relationship.He did not have much to pursue, settled in the status quo(whether at work or personal thoughts), do not pay attention to emotional communication, as long as eat, play good enough;I hope his life is in the state of learning and growth, Hope and his partner can have good communication, pay attention to the heart of the exchange.The boyfriend perfunctory work(he is the salesman, several times I found him lying in the busy is actually playing games at home), pale attitude to feelings(the two of us most when talking is in a quarrel), always let me fear for their future days.Although I also know that life is mainly on their own, a person's happiness is not by others to give and fulfill, to rely on their own business, but I'm really afraid to use their life time to operate and improve later, in my old no longer have the strength to change, only to regret that they had chosen the wrong
But I didn't have the courage to leave.I do not know how I survived these two years, after each quarrel I always consoled myself, self analysis, looking forward to the next improvement, but it is always not improved.I don't even know if there are people in the world who can fit me, or even if I doubt it, or if most marriages in the world are unhappy.I really want to talk to you. thank you.
Autumn heart reply：
Your heart is clear that this man is not for you, but because of the fear of a person back on the road and self-deception, then, who can on this basis to eliminate your inner fear?In this world, the people who can save themselves are often self-help, self-help, self-help journey is the foundation for happiness.
If you have been reading my blog, you should see what I said, people's character is very difficult to change, unless there is a major change, otherwise, that change is very very slow, let alone for others to change, your outlook on life, values are completely different, you can not accept the inclusion, How can appreciate each other?Yes, I said that love and marriage are needed to operate, but the premise of the business is that you find a right person, this person is not your cup of tea, you are relatively, should be clear?No marriage has been so hard to get along, a long road to life, there are countless waves, how to endure into gold?Is there anyone in the world who's in tune with you?No one can give you the answer, but at least this person is not with you, you can give yourself the answer, or give yourself a new opportunity to find the right one, only you can choose.If you are very unhappy with him and do not have the courage to leave, then you accept to continue to live in contradiction!
You can continue to think, and then when the red Yan getting old, convince yourself that this will live a lifetime.If you want to talk to me, I have a guide on the home page.