The sixth ambush: the child became a”third party."
Many people liken children to the crystallization of love.In the modern world,，
This crystallization often only once, and the emergence of the time is later than before, so when the belated Little Life finally opened his eyes, he just glanced at the parents, the human nature of the family immediately burst out.
There is nothing wrong with loving a child, and sometimes the wife, as a new mother, neglects her husband because she is too busy taking care of the baby.Just after a while you can not forget that the other half of your side also needs your love, this love and love for children is different,it will be simpler and more forgiving.For example, you are shopping for baby milk powder at the same time, did not forget to buy a shirt for her husband or a razor, the other side will be very satisfied.
th ambush:life is getting dull, accustomed to each other's position.Is plain wrong?I thought someone said,”it's real."But psychologists say that for many years, there have been two kinds of internal contradictions entwine human: on the one hand, people always want to find peace in this insecure world, but on the other hand, dull means to be bound, this choice is to lose the taste of life for the price.Therefore, I am afraid that in addition to the monastery in the monk, no one can really tolerate long dull life.
More importantly, some couples live together for a long time, often accustomed to this dull, over time on the lover gradually breed a sense of indifference.The days are dull and repetitive, and there is no longer any romance or passion in sight. even if the wife Changes 8 sets of underwear overnight, her husband will find nothing new.Another introverted husband said: "My wife always thinks I like to look at the newspaper after work, in fact, I have nothing to do to do this, I also want to go out with her, noisy."”
Perhaps married, there are more things to face, can not be as crazy as in love every day, however, a small surprise, enough to make the calm emotional Lake surging a beautiful waves.
The eighth ambush: the expectations of each other.It is said that the number of windows in the city, people inside it can find many kinds of marriage motives and reasons.And no matter how different the reason everyone goes to the Little Red Book, One thing can be the same:that is, the expectation for the future, the expectation for the one who will live with himself.
But life is often not what people want,you expect him to make a fortune, maybe he just take two dollars a day to buy a lottery ticket;you expect him to be successful, maybe he can and you after work to discuss the leadership level of employment.So, you finally can not help, you said: "You look at people, and we are married at the same time......" powerful point may also come to a sentence: "I married you really blind!”
Think about it from another angle, Maybe your man is not the best, but it is probably the most suitable for you and is your favorite.He loves you and will give you the greatest happiness and happiness within his power.Wouldn't it be the same love for a millionaire or a man with a successful career?God knows.
In the eyes of sociologists, the failure of expectations is one of the channels of humour production.For example, if you expect a hen to give birth to an egg, and a box of soap is left behind, people will laugh.Will you smile when your expectations of your loved ones fall short?In fact, that smile contains your tolerance, understanding and encouragement to him.
Ninth ambush: many a little make a mickle. damage.Some people's places will have a contradiction, couples evening and evening relative, of course, not less bumps and bumps, noisy is inevitable, not noisy is not normal.However, there is a difference between quarreling and hurting each other.If the two sides simply express different views with an angry expression, it is a quarrel; if also by the way to insult the other's personality, trample on the other's self-esteem, it is hurt.
Quarrel can be done "bed and bed tail quarrel", but the damage will leave a shadow, the other side may not speak out, but the heart may be a lifetime are difficult to eliminate.What I don't understand is that many husbands and wives are always so courteous on the outside,but they often come home with deep wounds.Maybe they think: can't I take it out on the people closest to me?But I did not expect the feelings of each other is:even my closest people are so hurt me...... when the cumulative damage time and time, one day it will form a kind of hate, but also the deeper love, the more hate.
A friend can tolerate your faults, but it is never possible to tolerate the harm your faults do to him, and so do couples, really.
Аmbush: the flood of "skepticism".The more you care about something, the more nervous it will be.Married for a long time, into the middle-aged husband also to men "a flower" period, then, the "flower" will not be outside the home“quietly open”?Anyway, the first thing to prevent the point.For example, check his wallet, look at his mobile phone, turn his collar smelling smell, even don't forget to assess the performance of his bed...... can not find traces that is another said, Anyway, the only way to make the heart of the stone is not so empty hanging.
In terms of what the film said“aesthetic fatigue", to give her husband a needle is necessary.The problem is you can not be too ruthless, every day to a needle who can not stand.Maybe some men would have been good, but you step by step to the edge of the derailment, " you can not trust me?Well, I'll do it for real. what?"Don't assume that a rebellious teenager will do it,“said the man, who asked not to be named.
One husband said: "My wife is such a smart and charismatic woman, and I can't help but be honest with her if I'm really sorry about her.""So, first of all believe that he has to tie the charm of her husband's heart, and secondly in the maximum extent to give him a kind of trust, and finally the use of wisdom to become passive initiative, his”evil“in the”bud".This is the difference between a wise wife and a confused wife in the face of this matter.