We all know that marriage couples sometimes can not avoid the mouth of the dispute, then you know what are the ambush in marriage?Here we take a look at the 10 great ambush in marriage.
Look What ambush you got in your marriage.
It will scratch is to scratch the right place, know where the itch is.Zhang Yimou, who is divorced, does not have to tickle, so he has time to make a film called "House of Flying Daggers".And sinister is probably not only the rivers and lakes, and our marriage, perhaps from the day on the red carpet, this mark has been irreparably hit.
From the”seven-year itch“to”house of Flying Daggers", marriage is a war between two people, is the highest intelligence between the couple and the largest personality countless contest.Some people say: "when the wife stood in the kitchen, silently washing dishes, when the husband holding a newspaper, staring at the TV, a constantly closed, everywhere is the‘ambush’of the war, it has quietly begun."In interviews with reporters about nearly 20 couples, they spoke about these stories and life scenarios, calm and vicissitudes.
The first ambush: the gap in a step by step.There is already a gap between men and women, such as women like Roman Dijk, men like Normandy;women like fashion, men like to wear fashion models.For couples, there is a gap in terms of life taste, value orientation, hobbies and other aspects, not only can make the two world more colorful, but also just in line with the”complementary " law.
It is in these gaps, but can not find a common interest between the two points.On a weekend night you look at your fashion magazine, he shouted in front of the TV: "I X, how not into one!"You call him a lunatic, he says you know what to enjoy life.We all feel that each other has no place, and that each other is maintaining a spiritual superiority.So, the two ended up turning into you and a magazine, he and a TV.
A fashionable wife and her“dirt”husband to get along is very dangerous, if there is no timely exchange and communication, without mutual help and adjustment, one day will have an inexplicable disgust, then look where he will be dislike.
The second ambush: the lack of color in emotional life.Some people say that the love between the couple is to degenerate, from the beautiful romantic love evolved into a flesh-and-blood relationship.This is because marriage is longer than actual love.So in this real marriage, the emotional life is in a state of "exhaustion", no longer "innovation", into the oil and salt in a thick and hard line.
The husband stopped buying roses for his wife,and he thought it would make more sense to bring back a pack of salt.The wife knows when not put soup, a few months down can let the gas meter to walk a word; at home bare feet two years can save a pair of slippers; take a telescope on the balcony to see the neighbors home TV one month can save electricity; the only thing is not stingy her mouth, chatter all the time, you should
In fact, if men experience more storms, there will be depth; if a woman home for a long time, will bring the charm of mature women; mature men and mature women charm, is definitely a beautiful landscape, it is important to know how to show in front of each other, know how to find new ways to express each other's love and
The third ambush:”things in the house " became obscure.Putting it in the last article in no way means it doesn't matter.Maybe someone thinks: married, sex has become less important.Indeed, family life is the first thing to think about, and children go to school, sex is not what they forced to the corner, this is probably also a lot of Chinese women are reluctant to climax and faithful to live.However, let us not forget that sex is also a measure of modern life, and whether it is harmonious or not will affect other aspects of life, however evasive.
If marriage is the delivery of the body and soul to each other, then it can be said that the physiological needs of the marriage is a basic needs, the body is the most fundamental happiness of happiness, lose all of this, the happy marriage will be greatly reduced.Please do not feel embarrassed for the desire of the body, boldly tell your feelings and expectations of the state, followed by the adjustment of mutual sincerity, so that the body is still deeply infatuated with each other, let happiness endure.
Love a person, is the music of life; and love a person with perfect sex, is the music of the music.On the sexual side, not giving up the right to pursue pleasure is not to turn us into mere hedonists; on the contrary, it is just a means to better spice up and serve real life.For the couple, the conquest of each other's souls may begin with the conquest of their bodies.
4th ambush: hastily married, leaving hidden dangers."Marriage", literally seems to be a woman fainted, find someone to tie up.In fact, there are a lot of couples have proved that this word is not our ancestors casually created, a love dazed, immediately had to run to the Civil Affairs Bureau, thought to quickly leash this person.Until the chain set, only to find that this person is not suitable for their own, became tasteless, abandoned the pity of a piece of chicken ribs.
Not enough time to try to fully understand each other, not enough time to calmly think about the relationship between the two became a hasty marriage for the future of the biggest risk.Sometimes, the”blitz " marriage will be confused by some false phase when in love.For example, a wife married for a year now asked her husband to accompany him to go to the mall, the husband always said he did not want to go, the wife puzzled: "you used to love shopping?""The husband said," I haven't caught you yet!"”
In order to please each other and wronged himself, I believe this kind of thing in love men and women are no less dry.Married, got, the fox tail naturally to reveal.Others have had to get married because they are not mentally prepared.The words of a 25-year-old man who has become a father are particularly poignant: "sometimes I can't help but think that I'm still a little kid,that I'm not finished with my own business, and that I have to bear the burden of the other two in the blink of an eye.……”
Perhaps we do not need to set a rigid standard for the common life before marriage, as some people say, “two years of love, three years of cohabitation”, but only after knowing each other, psychological preparation, and also have a certain foundation of reality, marriage life will have a good start.
The fifth ambush: too busy, cold each other.In Jin Yong's novel "Snow Mountain Flying Fox", when Miao Renfeng's beautiful wife, Nan LAN, turned to Tian Guoming's embrace, she affectionately told Tian Guoming: "you and my husband's name should be reversed to match.He is the best farming, you really is the Phoenix.Let Nan LAN say this love is the reason why the hero Miao Renfeng only know how to practice his Miao sword, his wife is not happy, he never had.Many men became the modern version of the "Miao Renfeng", and many women are probably no exception, "strong woman" is naturally busy.
Maybe someone has wronged:I'm busy, not all for this family?Yes, no one doubts that you are busy and believe that you are indeed "busy", but life is more important in fact, it is the process, not to give up the present price in exchange for the future.On the other hand, if you are really for this family, the family is broken, so what is the purpose of success?Caring and caring for each other, anywhere to give the other half of love, is the fundamental and long-lasting happiness of life.
To be sure, the relationship between the couple is like a flower, the two sides need to constantly watering fertilization, care to not wither.Can play all over the invincible hand "Miao Renfeng", finally can not keep a beloved woman, can not be said to be a great regret.
To be continued