Introduction: love is an eternal theme; everyone longs for romantic love, and all hope for eternal romance.How to achieve this romantic dream?Perhaps this article will come in handy.Romance comes from the delicate.
In love, the details are equally important.Wrong words or strange expression will make a couple of lovers quarrel for a few weeks, the same inadvertent gestures and moves will make love go well-small gifts, timely praise, occasional physical intimacy will greatly increase the affection between lovers.
Psychologists Nathaniel Brandon and Robert Steinberg have studied the problem of love and wrote about it.They argue that the outpouring of these delicate feelings is important, stronger than the "active listening" and”trust game " and the like.Here are ten suggestions they have given after their study that can help lovers to be happy and satisfied with each other in love.
A, tell lovers you love him(she）
Although often said that action is better than words, but words are often more expressive than action, straightforward.We want to say our love to our lovers from time to time.A simple sentence of”I love you“or”you are all I have " is very useful, can make lovers feel Care, feel love, have a sense of security in love.
Two, from time to time to show love
Little intimacy-patting each other on the back when passing on the aisle, sitting on the sofa hugging the lover's shoulder, sitting next to each other's hands on the legs, hand in hand when shopping-will make your other half feel deep affection, passing your true feelings of love.A little touch is important,much stronger than all night.
Third, know how to appreciate each other
We should always tell our lovers what we like most about him / her-what he / she admires, what he / she makes us proud, and what advantages we see in him / her.Let the other person know that we admire him not just in the beginning of a relationship, but throughout our lives.We must continue to encourage and support each other.Only then can we help him (she) to realize his potential.
Four, open your heart
Don't shut yourself out, hide your likes and dislikes, ideals, fears, achievements, mistakes, etc.We can share important things with our lovers.In addition, we should ensure that lovers are the ones who share our secrets to do more than others.Although it is necessary to retain a certain personal space in front of the most intimate person, but still want to take as much time as possible to talk with lovers heart.
Five, time to be the solid backing of the lovers
We all know how to comfort and encourage each other.Similarly, when lovers quarrel with colleagues, at work, do not want to worry about the cheques and Other Trifles, we should know how to support and comfort them.Of course, the premise is that we can not be submissive, can not let them abuse.But when the quarrel occurs, we should be a little thick skin, Keep Calm And Reason, first listen to what they are bothering, as much as possible to understand them, at least to comfort them.
Six, gift
We must take every opportunity to give gifts to our lovers to show our love.The gift can be a book in a bookstore, a special dessert, or a piece of jewelry, a piece of clothing-big or small, as long as you can tell the other person that you miss him (she) can be.We can also leave a note of love, studio clockwork”I love you " SMS.These can reflect that we have been thinking about each other, and the other will be more confident in their own, have a sense of security.
Seven, nderstand the shortcomings and shortcomings of lovers
Our unreasonable expectations of each other are likely to lead to the failure of love.We can't ask each other to be perfect unless we're married to a robot.People always have weaknesses and inadequacies. these are personalities, not faults.We have to learn to understand and accept each other's proclivities, a normal person will inevitably have some proclivity.We all know that our own weaknesses often make us feel uneasy, so do not blame the lover's shortcomings, do not deliberately expose the lover's shortcomings.
Eight, must make two people alone time
No matter how busy the two are, make sure that one night is spent together for a week or two.The two can create new memories, share each other's stories, or just stay together and enjoy each other's company.
Nine, put an end to take for granted mentality
Every day we should be grateful to the lover for everything we do, and thank him (she) for bringing so much happiness to our lives.We have to remember that the joy of being in love every day is what our other half does for us (and hopefully we do).Never think of things that are reasonable, of course, love is a cumulative process, we need to be careful, once we open lax, love will gradually disappear.
Seeking equality
We must abide by the golden rule in love: do not give to others what you don't want.Lovers should share the housework and other things equally.Don't expect or ask others to be extra considerate when they are not extra considerate.