Famous marriage psychology expert Julie
Some people say that the man is very heart, eating a bowl looking at the pot.Some people say that a man's true love is only once, and the most important position in the heart is left to someone.So, women always like to suspect even discuss with girlfriends, men's heart, in the end who live?Which corner belongs to you?
In this regard, the famous marriage psychology expert, marriage Network founder Ms. Julie gave the reporter a relatively comprehensive view.Julie said, men in the heart, probably the Dream Lover, first love girlfriend, wife, confidante, mother and so on.The roles are different, and not all the characters are always in the heart,just some time, a situation, one or two people in the heart through and through, not to abandon.
The man of my dreams, the man of my dreams
In May this year, Chen said, his mind, always live a perfect woman:over the ear Dai hair, handsome, gentle and clever ... but nearly 30 years, he has never met such a woman, and therefore, has not refused to talk about love.
Xiao Chen also said that although there are women who are affectionate with themselves, they also have a good feeling, but they are always not willing to accept their feelings, lest they miss the dream of people encounter, so wait, parents urge marriage, friends anxious, a bunch of people upset, get themselves very overwhelmed, do not know whether waiting for a happy ending,
Julie view: in fact, regardless of men and women, not met before lovers, lovers will inevitably idealized, according to their own want to set the mold under the box. However, as the internet said, ideal is very full of reality is very skinny, If blindly pursue a dream lover like a lover, the results are relatively easy to let people down or even despair, after all, the world is not easy to find the perfect person, so meet the right people, with the feeling of heart, good love.
I can't forget my first love.
Naran said,“If life only as ever, what autumn wind sad painting fan?"The poem is at the beginning of acquaintance with the beautiful and indifferent.The same wonderful, and first love.
I had a man on the trip, he was 32 years old, now his girlfriend is 30 years old.Love for two years, but always unwilling to enter the Marriage, Ask the reason, the way is the heart of the mind or the first love girlfriend, with his girlfriend, just because the other side is a good woman, on their own especially intentions.And in the case of the absolute 100 consultation, there are many confused women letters, complain that the boyfriend is not enough for their own heart, and for the former girlfriend of everything, but as the palm.
Julie view: first love more than in the beginning of love, the feelings of that time, simple and beautiful, most men are also used to love the side of the daughter.However, once separated, regrets, bearing in mind is inevitable.So there will be people say, love once, no love.It is said that true love only that time.Because men set foot in society after the increasingly rational, more energy and mind are placed on hard work, even love, but also fear of young love care and romantic warmth.This time, he needs more perhaps a woman who loves him, understands him, and forgives him.
To be together.
Because of marriage, men also have responsibilities and obligations.
Home is the man's Harbor, is a warm heart when the man in the fight to return a lamp.And the woman, also became the man who lives in the heart of the man, for his housework, for his children, for his jiaoyan attached to the dark smoke color......
This woman, who lives in the heart of a man, has become synonymous with home.
Julie point: being a man is a big thing in life.A woman who can work hand in hand with a man, naturally occupies a considerable weight in his heart.
A confidante.
”A little more than a friend, a little less than a lover " is the definition of a confidante.
The so-called confidante, and you are a spiritual independence, equality in the soul, and can achieve profound resonance of female friends.It's not just the emotional trash cans that make you talk about your troubles, or the nests where the outside world is hurt.Therefore, many men want to have a confidante.
Julie view: confidant is difficult to find, confidante even more.The woman originally to the man's confidante has the heart of the heart, so how to grasp the "degree", not to "confidante" into a”confidante " is very important.
Breaking away from the constant love of motherhood
Just like many women have Electra complex, most men also have a deep Oedipus complex, many men in the search for a girlfriend and the mother will find a similar personality habits.There have been a number of members online consultation:why husband always take their own and mother-in-law than, accuse themselves not as good as mother-in-law, not like mother-in-law that love clean, should learn more with mother-in-law……
Julie view: mother, in the hearts of men occupy a pivotal position, so when others say the mother is not the slightest angry angry.In the eyes of men, the mother is wrong, but also understanding.Such feelings, all my life can not afford to give up.Although, occasionally man will complain about the mother's not, but also limited to his own complaints, so this is why, but when women complain about the mother-in-law is not the slightest reason, the man will be angry.