Users shout letters: the sky is always blue, Hello!I'm 40 years older than you, so it's probably a good idea to say something like that.I am not good at expressing, but in my heart you must understand that it is not disrespectful to you.
So tell me my story:I've been with her for 11 years and have two children.So far, no wedding ceremony has been held.These days she urges me to hurry, forcing me and her to go to the home to tie the marriage certificate.But I do not want from the bottom of my heart, I want to leave this home, do not have anything, the house, the car and the deposit, I do not take away a penny, this is what she should get, is also a compensation for my ten years of her spring.However, I really do not know how to tell her, I am afraid that I will leave her to die hard, so I am very careful,until now did not talk to her.But this day will come, and what shall I say to her?
Sky forever blue reply: shout friends, Hello!From your letter you can see that you are a very straightforward man, this is our character, this will be the biggest basis for our communication.I know from your letter that you are willing to part, but because your letter is very long, and in order to protect your privacy, I only take part in this article.
In real life, like you a lot of this situation, but most of them are not willing to admit their mistakes, but do not want to accept the "beginning of chaos and finally abandoned" infamy, and you accept, and take the initiative to wear their own, very painful, some bitterness and frustration.These are all I can see in your letter, and it is on this basis that I am willing to reply to you from a number of letters.
You had a happy past, and though you now describe it as“chaos”, it is sweet in any case.However, it is this sweetness and“chaos "of lack of preparation and responsibility that directly leads to your present suffering and "final abandonment".In fact, a lot of things if you want to trace it carefully, the nature of the causal link, just because you have the chaos of the beginning, will have today finally abandoned.So, although the wrong in the original chaos, but the responsibility needs to bear you now.
Here I will try to help you list and analyze why you will always abandon, right for your reference, but also be related to similar friends(especially female friends) some advice, I hope they can find their own deficiencies, so as early as possible to take effective remedial measures.
The beginning of the chaos eventually abandoned a reason: chaos word head, eventually abandoned inevitably.
There is a confusion of charming eyes, what things in a mess, it will be difficult to access the essence of things.Just think, if only with a chaotic glimpse, on the ground bed to marry, such a marriage and not a problem of emotion.Of course, at the same time, here also fulfilled a sentence, that is: easy to get the total will not know how to cherish.Think of the two met at first sight, love at first sight, like a raging fire lingering together, that the soul and body of the Yue is how easy ah, a little frustration and test are not even thinking of time, such emotions and pleasure can be profound?Each of US has a certain social attributes, social attributes of this determines what things we can do, what things can not be, how long, how to, such as the test will be in you after the beginning of chaos ensue, can not be avoided...... there are many problems, contradictions will be more, eventually tired, also downhearted, or give up or abandon it.
The beginning of chaos finally abandoned reason two: at the beginning of the happiness of a drink, behind only hungry.
In fact, happiness is like a glass bottle of wine, God gave everyone such a bottle, if we inadvertently tasted a small mouth, feel good, they will drink it without scruple, even drunk, then not only spoil the wine, and blasphemy of happiness.A person who really knows how to taste the wine, is never willing to pour wine into the stomach, he will lightly pour, will invite soulmate meet, each drink a small cup, the rest of the time will be looking at the glass of wine and fine aftertaste.Happiness is such a wonderful thing, if you want to really take out to enjoy the feeling of shallow, or both hands looking at it in the bottle Wander is a long-term enjoyment.Of course, it's just an understanding of happiness that the sky is always blue.To say this, just want to give some people a word: the marriage of wine, or to drink slowly as well, if because of a moment before the brain to drink a fine, behind there will be no wine to drink, even across the glass to enjoy the happiness will be lost.
The beginning of chaos finally abandoned reason three:not with the times powerful self.
In this era, a person who does not know how to advance with the Times will sooner or later be eliminated by society, and marriage will be the same.Many people always think that holding the marriage certificate, is a legitimate husband and wife, do not have to worry about the problem of Sesame.But they are wrong, and the marriage also requires both sides to be progressive and strong, and to be together.Because each of us is a social person, social development, each of us in the follow-up development, if in this case, your individual development is slow, or can not keep up with the pace of the other side of the marriage, even if you are still in the back of the situation can not be strong heart, then you and your marriageTherefore, in order for you (especially women) to have the beauty and happiness can be more long-lasting, You Must from the restlessness of the past to set the heart of God, quickly and effectively improve their own, including intellectual structure, humanistic taste, social status, and spiritual strength and other aspects to do with the times,“when " here is the first representative ofAt the same time, this is also the most effective way to make up for the“chaos”in marriage is not to be“abandoned”.
Four reasons: only block is not sparse, marriage lacks the art of communication.
In fact, a lot of marriages that have been "thrown out of the system," they themselves have long been aware of.So, they will have a great sense of crisis.This crisis will always let them unconsciously take some measures and means, such as: the fear of their own abandoned party, always thinking about the French son to inquire, follow, investigate and supervise each other everything, all day fearful and cautious, for fear that the other party to abandon, the more afraid, the more the action is more powerful and even extreme, eventuallyIn fact, this business, save or supervise the marriage method is extremely ignorant, in fact, the key lies in the management of the marriage, put the man in charge, the marriage will be stable.But since time immemorial, whenever the management is related to people, it can never be suppressed or blocked.A more scientific approach is to make the necessary blockage at the same time, we should put more time and energy on the dredge, as long as the thought through, naturally also do not block.The sky always blue has been stressed that marriage is about art,for those lightning, love at first sight and dazzling marriage should pay more attention to the art of marriage, both men and women in peacetime more time to communicate, to try to take some time to accompany each other, to stand in each other's position up for him to analyze,“it's a great feeling,”he said.