How it helps:
* You can change your negative thoughts that provoke bad mood, bad actions and even bad health (in the end). Even obsessive negative thoughts can be changed.
* Positive thinking helps you cope better with life's challenges.
How to be positive when it's hard:
Being optimistic does not mean ignoring all bad events. It means trying to see the positives in everything that happens. Try this:
* Write about your future in a positive way: what you want to achieve and why. It is write, not think, because the presentation of thoughts in writing helps to put them better in your head. Allow yourself 20 minutes a day to reflect on these ideas and Refine them in detail.
* Imagine all the possible positive, desirable, most simple options for the outcome of a difficult situation.
* Answer the questions: Can I make some positive experience from this situation? Does it help strengthen my relationship with anyone? Will I learn anything new? Is there anything in this situation that I can be proud of?
How to stay optimistic:
* Learn to Express gratitude. Write thank-you letters — whether you send them to the recipients or not — this exercise will help you focus on positive emotions.
* Keep a diary of "appreciation", where you write down all the small and large events that you are grateful for the positive moments in your life: beautiful relationships, touching moments in your life, actions or things that made you smile.
* Periodically remind yourself to stop and enjoy the moment. Let us take the opportunity sometimes to simply feel the beauty that you live.
* Share the good news with others.
Avoid negative thinking:
* Don't live in negativity, about negativity and about negativity. Ask yourself the questions: Is this situation really so terrible? What about next year?
* Tell yourself you'll worry about it later. Day after tomorrow, at 5 am. It is almost guaranteed that you will worry much less during this time.
Instead of constantly turning negative thoughts in your head and chewing them like chewing gum, try to learn a few exercises to stop doing it.
* Digress, in the end: go to the movies, do something interesting.
Stop negative conversation with yourself. Ask yourself: are you really the world's worst mother? Think of situations where you have shown yourself in the opposite way. Imagine that the same situation you complain about your loved one, what would you advise him?
* Be wary of all-or-nothing thoughts and disaster thoughts - just because you upset your girlfriend once doesn't mean you're going to do it all the time. If you're fired, you're not going to die, and you're not going to be fired from anywhere since then.
* Beware of thoughts of "must", "must"," should be "and" reading in the head of others " — if your boss did not respond to your letter, it is more likely that he has no time, than that he wants to show you how he hates you.
Did you know that if you help other people, you reduce the likelihood of depression and reduce the severity of stress?
* There are studies that studied two groups of students of one American University, one group was assigned to help anyone 5 times during the day, and the second group did not receive any such task (control group). Those students who helped, later noted that they felt somehow happier these days.
* Helping others reminds you that you may be more successful, happier, more able and able.
* You feel needed and useful, communicate more and more constructively with other people.
You take a moment away from your problems.
* There is meaning and fulfillment in your life.
Try it yourself!
It is not necessary to get a volunteer at the point of distribution of food and medicines to the homeless — although you can do so. Nor should you think that helping others is the lot of great people with a lot of free time and money. Here are a couple of simple guidelines for everyone on how to help someone every day:
* Call a friend and ask how things are going.
* Prepare the husband (wife) Breakfast.
* Smile at someone.
* Hold the Elevator doors for a colleague who is running to the Elevator.
* Tell the questioner on the street the way.
* Give 10 minutes a day of quality attention to your child, loved one or colleague. All your attention in these 10 minutes give only him, let enjoys.
* Ask a rookie colleague if he or she is OK, if there is any help needed.
* If you are driving, miss a pedestrian or a car that is trying to change lanes.
And if you liked it, you can try this:
• If you like to communicate with children — help your friend's child to do math or English lessons.
• If you like outdoor work — join the clean-up, which takes place in your area.
* List the financial assistance to the orphanage.
* Become a dog curator at the shelter.
Tips:
* Don't take on too much. Before you answer " Yes " to the request — think about whether you can fulfill it.
* Try different ways to help - not to get bored and uninteresting.
* Do not suddenly turn into a Savior of all and everything-can misunderstand. :)