Approaching Christmas and new year holidays and holidays. Many people have their first meetings and acquaintances with their parents planned for this period, because New year and Christmas are traditionally a family holiday.
Gifts, jewelry and appropriate mood accompany most of the people. In addition, we are, as usual, waiting for a long Christmas vacation, so this is really the best time to get to know my parents.
However, thanks to the Directors and writers of the film "Meeting parents", we know what can turn into such an event. This film is a good Comedy, but, as you know, in every joke there is some truth. That is why a sequel to the film was subsequently filmed.
In addition to the first visits for Dating, there are just ordinary visits to relatives. But what if the boyfriend's mom immediately begins to tell you how to run the farm, and the girl's dad gets drunk half an hour after the start of the feast?
To communicate with relatives do not spoil your mood in the coming holidays, in this article I will give advice to those who are just going to get acquainted with the parents, those who already know the parents, and the parents themselves.
First acquaintance
Advice for HIM and for HER
• Prepare. You go for an interview and prepare? Why not prepare to meet your parents? Ask, who from relatives also will attend: brothers, sister? Find out what they're interested in. What topics may interest them, and what, on the contrary, hurt or offend?
* Bring a small gift. Here the meaning probably is not in the value of the gift, and that you thought about the person who bought it. Even just a bottle of Belgian or Czech beer can be a good gift for the owner, who knows a lot about this drink.
* Avoid "dangerous" topics. In every family there are threads, when affecting which starts violent dispute that ends with mutual dissatisfaction. For example, politics or the national question. Preparation will help you learn about it and not accidentally fall into such a trap. Some time later you may well be able to take part in this debate, if you want, but so far you — the most unprepared and weak participant. Be ready to help if you need to. Do not immediately rush to the kitchen and take away the mother of your girl or your young man ladle and apron, but on occasion, you can ask her if she needs any help. At least offer to help clear the table of dirty dishes after dinner.
* Show good manners. Say "thank you" and "please" — even if others do not. If you do not like some dish from the table, still take a little bit, and concentrate on what you like. If you do not know what to do, look at the hostess, what and how she does. Be sure to praise the one who cooked.
• If you do not like these people, remember that they raised your girlfriend or your boyfriend — and this person you still like. So they did something right after all?
* Try to relax, but do not go beyond the bounds of decency. Do not put your feet on the table, drink too much alcohol, tell indecent jokes or criticize someone from the owners or relatives.
* Ask open-ended questions and at least give your face an interested look as you listen to the answer.
Closed questions are those to which the answer may be monosyllabic: "Yes", "no", "don't know", etc. Closed questions do not allow to develop dialogue or conversation. Your task is to ask open-ended questions, the answer to which looks like a few sentences. Do not ask the father or brother of your girl: "You read Autoreview?"The answer is at best 'yeah' and at worst 'No', and what are you going to ask next?
If you have prepared for the visit, then you already know, for example, that the father has a Renault car, and the brother dreams of a BMW. Ask your question: "Why did you choose Reno? What criteria did you use to make your purchase decision?"or "what BMW model do you like? Why?»