About ways to leave work at work, and at home to be yourself, stop bossing loved ones and switch to another life
I'm not talking about a situation where a post requires to be connected or to be the subject of round the clock, for example, in the case of a Director of the company. This is our conscious choice. The Manager solves the problems of his company, usually even at home; and now it's not about that.
I'm talking about the situation when after work you continue to behave with their children, spouse, parents, friends, from the position of the head. It's like he never left his office. The same requirements, the same expectations, the same management techniques.
How to fix the situation?
Suppose, someone and his surrounding such a situation can telling. Okay. But this is rather an exception. As a rule, our loved ones become dissatisfied with such behavior.
They want to see the person and communicate with him on ordinary everyday topics, and not to obey the "Deputy chief doctor of the Department" in a white coat, who gives them orders, who what injection to make. But because we spend a lot of time at work, and spend a lot of moral and physical strength to match their status and position, it can be difficult for some people to "get out of the role." And at the same time you experience discomfort and stress, by the way.
For those who know such a problem, here are some good recommendations:
1. Make a list of your roles. Who are you?" For example:
• Person Nadia
• Mother
* Deputy chief physician of the Department Nadezhda Alekseevna
• Bad Neighbor
• Wife
* Beautiful and Smart Woman
Consider these roles. Than they differ, than are good, in any roles what props is used (for example, notebook-only for role Deputy chief doctor, and on gender can sit only Mother), and camping on D.
1. Write to each role, on what days / at what time / in what circumstances you use them. Set the rules like " Until 17: 00 I-Nadezhda Alekseevna, Deputy chief physician of the Department, and from 17: 00 — I'm just a man Nadia."
2. Decide in which particular place on the way out of work, you will change this role.
3. And do it. Try to hold the new role all evening. I'm sure you'll like it. :)
4. If, while you're at home, you'll call from work with an extra question (or something like that), then change the role to work. Stay 5 minutes during the conversation Nadezhda Alekseevna. And then, when you hang up, don't forget to take off your white coat until the next time.
5. If you are "swimming" and cannot fully experience your roles, choose a symbol, or a key role attribute, like a doctor's white coat for a doctor's role. This attribute must be real, for example, some special brooch for the role of "Beautiful and Smart Woman", or" hair in a ponytail " for the role of Mom. You should feel how this attribute is related to your role. If you have trouble finding a role, use the attribute.
There is another version of the same technique, only it is not called " Roles "and"White paper". In this case, the essence is the same, but instead of roles, white sheet visualization is used. Left work-became a white sheet. And began his on-a new fill in.
Also, this method is convenient for those who often have to switch from one to another, and at the same time with each other is not related, for example, the same doctor at the reception of patients, or a recruitment specialist at several interviews with candidates during the day. This method is also suitable for psychologists who have several times during the day during a psychological or psychotherapeutic consultation to talk with completely different people about completely different problems.