From childhood we hear this phrase: “promises must be kept”, and if they say this to a man, then he must break into a cake, but fulfill his promise. Today we will understand whether this statement is true or false.
Promises are food that you are fed for free. Traditionally served with a hand on the heart.
We are divided into 2 categories:
- People who can make promises, even more I will tell you, they will surely fulfill them.
- People who should never be given promises, they simply will not be able to fulfill it, and if they do, they will spend so much reserve energy that they "will borrow it." And each debt is red by payment. We will come back to this.
How do you know which category you belong to?
A promise, as such, can have several meanings, for example:
- to come to a meeting strictly on time - implies a promise to be on time
- to do the work on time - equivalent to a promise to do the work on time
- take a prepayment - a promise to do the job
I gave some examples in order to broaden my horizons to this concept of “promise”. And now back to the category of people who can never be promised anything. If such a person takes an advance payment for work that he is about to complete on time, then he will meet with resistance. And this resistance will in every way impede the fulfillment of this promise. Moreover, these obstacles may be independent of it. And if he overcomes all obstacles, then he can burn out emotionally, get sick or have other problems.
You know, the expression “to promise does not mean to marry” carries just everything that I am talking about today. Even in domestic affairs, promises should not be made, because you will need to fulfill it. But you do not know which category you belong to and whether you have the resources for this.
I made a few statements that will tell you your category.
Now remember and analyze your promises.
1.Category - you can promise
- I don’t feel uncomfortable if I need to be on time
- I keep all promises with ease
- If I took a prepayment, then the work is always delivered on time
- If I decided to lose weight by the summer - I lost weight
- There are no health problems in keeping promises.
2.Category - cannot be promised
- Any work, limited in time, failed, did not work
- Any promise to fulfill something ended in failure
- Being late for important meetings, and if you had time, then inside we were worried
- The promise to go in for sports strictly according to plan or to follow a strict diet did not lead to results
- Various problems hindering the fulfillment of the promised
- After fulfilling the promise, you feel unwell, headache, depression, fatigue and many other somatic illnesses.
What about those who should not be given promises?
Everything is very simple, if you have an appointment for the exact time, come early. Where you can be late, be late. Thus, the importance of accurate time will decrease and it will be easier for you. If you take up work do not limit the time, do not make a plan, this will also be a promise. Do not answer “yes, I will”, especially if you doubt the implementation at all, you can say “I will try”. Give yourself freedom and do not set a time frame.
There are various business people who inspire you with what you can do, and even indicate a term; this promise is called a “declaration”. As a security they take your phone or money so that you fulfill the promise - earn money and “close the declaration”. There are some guys who really need such a “pendal”, and there are those for whom this is a destructive force.
I hope that my tips helped you to know yourself better. And if you still haven’t figured out whether you can promise or not, then don’t do it better. Watch yourself, it's so interesting. If you have something to share, welcome to comment.