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Since the 1920s, the number of child household chores has been steadily declining. We are afraid of overloading children with something that will not lead them to socially significant achievements. In vain! Science says that help will come in handy not only for parents bent over the sink, but will also be useful to the children themselves. Yes, if suddenly the son refuses to lay the laminate in the hallway, say that this is for his own good!
American scientists from the University of Minnesota under the direction of Marty Rossman studied the lives of 84 people for 25 years. Studies have shown that those who, from three to four years old, helped parents with their household chores, then did better at school and at the institute. They built a career faster and talked more warmly with family and friends, unlike those who avoided washing dishes in childhood. “Mom’s helpers” outstripped the achievements of those who began to do housework as a teenager.
So if we wish the child all the best in life, someone should quickly take the scoop and clean up after the cat. The tips below have proven effectiveness against bacteria, scale and sticky stains.
1. Be friendly
Most often, we demand that the youngest member of the family get down to business when they get off their feet: on the stove, the soup burns out, the iron is on the shirt, and the child suddenly asks for a sleeve torn off in the fray. Any parent will be angry: "I’m not your servant, do it yourself!". Evil directions can work if you only have a moment between the past and the future. But if you are looking to the future, this method will not help. The situation when mom is bad and therefore let everyone feel bad is unlikely to inspire anyone to exploit.
2. Household chores will not interfere with the child’s learning
If the youngest does not have to sort the grain at night, you are unlikely to have cause for concern. American psychologists monitored the well-being of about 800 teenagers and were surprised to note that participation in household chores was associated with a higher level of contentment and happiness. There is a suspicion that it is household chores that give children a sense of connection with loved ones and awareness of their need in the family.
3. Set feasible tasks
The innocent phrase “Go take the rubble in the nursery!” May sound like a proposal to eliminate the landfill of the century. Compare your requirements with the capabilities of the child. Does he even manage to put his socks in a drawer? No? And why was he instructed to drill the baseboard? Preschoolers need, if not help, then at least the presence of a relative nearby and his encouraging comments: “Hurray! You caught a candy wrapper. Send him in the bin! Miss! Come on one more time! You can do it! ”
4. Speak expectations
This will save you from disappointment when you give the task to tidy up, and then notice an untouched tower of pizza boxes. Describe in words what kind of paintings appear in your head when you talk about a served table or about the order in the living room. For example, in what corner should the stuffed fox stand and how exactly should it stand: not on the tail, but on its paws, face to the door. If you are at the very beginning of the journey, draw a poster for your child with step-by-step instructions, explanatory drawings and clear arrows.
5. Save children from obsessive control
It’s somehow annoying to work if the whole family council observes you and comments on your tongue: “It’s a little bad. Web on the right. No, it does not. Wrong broom holds. " A person will improve the necessary skill over time, and parents should try to ensure that the child is associated with pride in achievements, and not with shame for his own awkwardness.
6. Note the competence of the child
We all like to do what we do well. By managing things and events, children increase their self-esteem. When the youngest believes that he can cope with obstacles and achieve the goal, he does not need to get a vaccine and generously coat all the shoes in the hall, including grandfather's boots.
7. Thank you for your help.
Support success not only with good feedback, but also with sincere gratitude. When you see that it’s easy for my daughter to assemble furniture from Ikea, do not forget to rejoice: “Thank you, you have assembled the Bürstoudaledealingeractor!” Oh, you are my assistant! ”
By the way, experiments show that children 3-6 years old are much more likely to meet if the adult uses the word "assistant" instead of "help."
8. Build a sense of independence
If a parent constantly gives orders, he runs the risk of meeting a silent rebuff or even an open rebellion. Housework should not look like a whim of an adult, but an objective necessity. You can say a word for guinea pig, which, apparently, has become anorexic, and therefore it urgently needs to be fed. You can hint at the time of day: “Look how the clock is running! It’s getting dark already, and yesterday’s sandwiches still lie in the nursery. ” Or pay attention to the fact that the clay, which the child played all morning, has dried up on the floor and now perfectly complements the interior of the mud hut. You do not stand up against the child in the struggle for cleanliness and order, but you and the child fight the chaos and entropy of the universe.
9. Remove your wallet
Paying for housework with money means turning a family member into an employee and knocking out their internal motivation. A child who, for free and from the heart, prepared breakfast for everyone from crackers and a raw egg, feels his involvement in the affairs of loved ones and the responsibility for overall well-being.
10. Use game elements
Peppy Longstocking poured a bucket of water on the floor and glided through the kitchen with brush-skates. Perhaps the fact is that she did not have to pay repairs to the neighbors below, but you too are likely to come up with a lot of ways to have fun while working around the house. Turn on the timer and wipe the dust with the child at speed. Try hanging the laundry while the song is playing. Arrange a game of Sherlock Holmes while sorting things out from a cluttered balcony, or depict slave Isaur by polishing mirrors.
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