Once upon a time there was a guy. He was very smart and hardworking. By the age of 30, he had achieved a lot in social terms. At 32, he suddenly begins to hurt. Above all, apathy falls on him, and then depression. His words: “Everything was fine, I had not just business, I had a real talent for business. Then all of a sudden my business scumbag evaporated. Where did she go? I do not understand. It seems that they took everything from me, but gave nothing in return.”
Girl: “Until 25 years, I lived, somehow not really thinking about problems. They were, but I did not perceive them as something terrible. Now I understand that I did not seem to see them at all. And then suddenly I began to realize that everything had somehow become dim. Everything is sad, everything is uninteresting. I began to realize that there were problems, and there were many, and I never, you know, never really solved them. To be honest, it terrified me.”
Girl: “I can definitely remember when everything began to crumble in my perception of the world. I was with friends in a cafe, and there we clashed with one girl from our company. Nothing special, but I was too excited about something. The next day I woke up in a depressed mood, as I now recall. I especially did not pay attention to him. But then it turned out that I had been in this mood for more than a day, not two, and not a month! I then did not realize what was happening. Looking back now, I understand that this was a turning point in life. It’s a pity that I lost so much time until I began to realize that it was time to do something about it.”
Girl: “Everything was fine until my first child was born. I became different, but not at all in the happy sense of the word.”
Guy: “I always felt like a black sheep in any company, but the situation when I had to leave work was the hardest one. After that, all life seemed to become a gray spot."
What do all these people have in common? Each of them was able to track a turning point in life. Each of us already has, or will have, this turning point.
Analyzing the stories about these changes in life, as well as remembering your turning point in life, you understand that until this hour X lives as if automatically. You also think. There is an answer to every question in the mind; there is a ready-made version of the reaction to any stimulus. And with this ready-made set of answers to everything, you suddenly bump into a wall. Into a wall of problems. AND FOR THE RESOLUTION OF THESE PROBLEMS, READY ANSWERS IN THE HEAD IS NOT ENOUGH.
It turns out that the scenarios, beliefs, automatisms that we have collected during our life, are not enough to live normally further. Automatic thinking no longer rolls.
Awareness is needed, and in everything. If we say something, then consciously, if we do, then also consciously.
Consciously, in fact, this is not automatic. In our lives, more knowledge about how this world is arranged should appear, and we must learn to stop and choose. When we reproduce something automatically, we do not choose. And if we do it consciously, we choose.
After a turning point in life, there is usually a long streak of trouble. Everyone has. The duration of this strip will depend on how stubborn and moody the person is. It’s enough for someone to live a year old in apathy, depression, a long illness, quarreling with a spouse or relatives, and someone is ready to stay in this state for years.
Unfortunately, if a person is not ready to realize and transform their automatisms, behavior models, etc., a person can be turned off. Oleg Markeev called these people "broken figures." They can get a serious illness and leave quickly, sometimes suddenly.
This shows the great intent of the Creator regarding why we came here. We came here to treat life consciously, which means we have the opportunity to make choices, and therefore, through our choices we can create our own life, that is, to be the Creator of our life.
To implement this idea, conditions are created for us. These conditions are special - suffering) For practice shows that a person begins to move in order to change something when he is very ill. And our Creator knows this well and for a long time.
So, where should everything come to?
From a “figure in the Game”, a person must turn into a Player, and eventually, into a Game Master (according to O. Markeev).
What do people who understand this say?
Guy: “I suddenly realized that I was responsible for myself. And no more concessions. Everything that I think I’m doing - everything affects my mood, the results of my work. At first it gets scary. And then - great. It’s as if you are riding a motorcycle and flying at breakneck speed. Liberty!"
Girl: “After I dealt with this serious illness, I seemed to be a different person. This is unbelievable. I went to healing for a long time. A very long time. Doctors, practitioners, psychotherapy, sports. So much work done! But I do not regret it. I would never be able to feel the way I am now, if not for the disease. She did everything for me! ”
Guy: “I learned to be myself. Anytime and anywhere. Right now I can do what I want. I used to look around all the time, was locked in fears. Now I have begun to realize my mission in life and am no longer afraid to make a mistake. "
Girl: “When I started working with all this colossus of memories, it seemed to me that it was impossible to review and change everything. After I did this, I’m not afraid of anything. It was as if they gave me an entrance ticket to a new level with the words: “Well done, I managed the exams. Turn now what you want, as an adult already. ”
Indeed, becoming Adults and conscious is not easy and quick, but worth it