Once, in one social network, I wrote a story about a girl who started her career from scratch, excelled in this area, and fairly treated myself with respect after she succeeded.
One of the comments on this story was as follows:
“Sheer nonsense in the style of American fairy tales about Cinderella who became princesses. The Internet is full of such bouts, courses, and other nonsense. People believe, and all this does not lead to anything.
I, too, once was full of hope, optimism, sold property, rushed into my business, eventually burned out. Do not do so, such actions end badly. ”
I didn’t write anything back, because some things must first be felt in order to understand. But now I decided to write an article on this topic, because it so happened that several people in my circle raised this topic at once, and it seemed to me that this could become relevant for those who read the blog.
I would like to demonstrate examples of parts (subpersonalities) that I observed in cases of extremely unsuccessful business and in cases of success.
Perhaps you yourself will be able to draw conclusions, as well as observe which parts in you are responsible for the success of the business you are doing.
First, about the parts that led a person to business troubles.
Let's try to visualize the first one.
The girl resembles a fiery revolutionary. She is fussy, talking with slogans, calls on business to start and end on her own, because it is necessary, right.
In reality, at work, all employees began to sabotage the decrees of the boss. It all ended unpleasantly.
Another subpersonality.
Here is a Turgenev girl. Too soft, too quivering. Where it was necessary to yell obscenely, this part spoke intelligently, believing that everything would be settled by itself.
Not settled.
Another example.
In place of the part that is responsible for the business, there is a guy of 18 years old (for the person who visualizes this part, over forty). His main problem is that he is too young. And not just a young man, but also a youthful maximalist. And you don’t need to go to the fortuneteller to understand that this part will not raise the tasks that the man set for himself. Just because he believes that everything will be simple, easy. But it will not be so. And the inner youth will not cope.
You see, if a person does not even realize what the part that will “work” in his business looks like, he intuitively feels how it will end. And if a failure has already occurred in the business, and after that the internal part, which was responsible for the business, has not changed, then the person understands that you won’t cook porridge with this part. At that time, the brain underpins the idea that “it’s impossible to work for a decent person in this country” or some other idea, and that’s all.
Actually be successful and rich, and even decent! man can, and there are such people, even if there are not many.
Want to see what the part responsible for business looks like for such a person?
Adult man. Really an adult. He knows that there are problems, but he is not afraid of them. He is not afraid of failure either, because he perceives business as a game. If something goes wrong, he will start a new game. He is not dependent on the outcome of the game. He will receive pleasure in any case. He can manage large, multifaceted projects. He does not think that so many problems will fall on him that he will not be able to solve them. And in general, he had long understood that expecting problems, he receives them, so he does not expect them.
He allows orders for his work to flow unhindered in large numbers. He won’t suffocate from the amount of money received. Spend for pleasure where necessary.
If we talk about the part in women, then this part looks approximately.
Confident, in an expensive suit, she can communicate with anyone on any topic, is smart, creatively approaches issues, goes to a psychotherapist :), is married, has enough time to communicate with children, knows for sure that she is poor, unhappy, unlucky I played enough, I consciously chose this image for myself, lives in it quite comfortably.
I want to end the article with the words: what is created inside at the moment, then it will happen in life.
No more and no less.
And yes, there is such a part in us that can be called an “internal skeptic,” you generally need to start working with him from the very beginning.