There was a woman at my reception the other day. Very nice and pretty. Told such a history. She was friends with her friend from 18 years, studied together, married, even children managed to give birth with a difference of a week. Then perestroika.
This woman has become engage business together with husband, respectively earned well, and have girlfriends all contrary. Her husband broke down, washed down, she kicked him out, new relationships she did not happen and she lived, counting every penny.
My visitor helped her in every way, with money, food, and advice. Even when she had changed and moved into a new apartment, she had furnished it almost completely.
Very often drove her into the light, trying to cheer up a friend. It lasted almost 30 years. In recent years, a friend and she earned well, but still everywhere and paid for everything my counterpart. It was to oppress, and how to explain to a friend that it's time to "get off the neck"?
What to do in this situation? Want and friendly relationship keep, to quarrel, and on such them to continue impossible! But the conflict has not matured! When my client's husband got cancer, she was gone, called only six months later. Like, how are you doing?
What a story! Sorry! Pity my client. She mistook the use of her opportunities for friendship. She was friends, not with her! Very often meet such relationship with friends, when one you enjoys, and the second accepts this for granted, nothing not giving in return, nor gratitude, nor sympathy, nor empathy. Unfortunately, we realize this very late, when nothing can be changed.
We must clearly understand who is your friend and a sober assessment of his actions. After all, only the actions of a person is evaluated! Relations in friendship are equal!
Do not shoulder an unbearable burden and do not expect gratitude, even from a close friend, each of you should be independent. You can accept one-time help, but do not allow yourself to depend on someone all your life.
Friendship is a harmonious and comfortable relationship based on mutual respect, understanding and devotion, where everyone understands the value of these relationships and is interested in their preservation.
Family problems, conflicts at work, fatigue, stress often bring us out of balance. As soon as there is a feeling of anger, discontent or fear, we lose self-control, self-control, which leads to conflicts or quarrels.
In such cases, it is necessary to maintain composure, calmness, which allows you to think clearly and be confident in yourself, your rightness. This will give us the strength to cope with certain problems, will not allow emotions to overwhelm us.
Know, the one who owns his own emotions, owns the situation and finds solutions. If we panic, feel helpless and do not find the strength, we will not be able to cope with difficulties, so we need to learn to remain calm, to develop our own abilities to find solutions.
A well-known fact: most people later regret their emotional breakdowns. So keep yourself in hand, control your emotions! Of course, it's not so easy, took and pressed the button and everything is fine, and, nevertheless, try, try to always control yourself and be confident in yourself and your actions! If You are unable to control yourself in difficult situations, you can use the help of a psychologist.