Why do a man and a woman break up? What happens in their relationship? There are many reasons why they converge, as there are many motives for which they differ. Consider some of them.
If a man and a woman, or someone one of them met during the period of separation from former partner, and the pain has not subsided or feelings are completely gone, and the decision to have a new partner type "to fight fire with fire", these relations can not be long-lasting. After all, they are already pre-aimed at revenge, resentment. It is very difficult for any new feelings to be born here. And how can you have a partnership without love, respect, affection. Sooner or later someone from couples will understand this and then separation inevitably.
And there are relationships for sex. Usually this is often blamed for men. Here is wanted him have this woman, he will its seek, promise Golden mountains, talk worst. But once he's got it, he's not interested. And the poor woman believed, maybe even fell in love! It can't be helped! Need to "sack pink" lens. These relationships usually don't last long. The man will simply disappear!
Relationships can be just for fun. From boredom. There feelings no, just any Hobbies, maybe circumstances happened. Well, for example, you went to a party for friends, there you met a young man, very cute, Yes, and it is reciprocated, that spun – spun! You are already making plans for the future, dreaming. You meet him a few times, you like him, and he just happened. And feelings mutual arose. Of course, such a relationship is doomed.
Sometimes passion! It is usually confused with love. So suddenly mutual affection, desire for each other, the inability to break away from him/her, rolls over you that you can go crazy! For weeks and even months this passion lives in you with such force that you think it is love! Then, suddenly, you notice that your partner has a bad temper, that she is dirty and so on. Passion slowly subsides, pales, and not reborn into a higher feeling. And again separation!
But when a couple breaks up – it's quite another matter. There was a family, a common life, income, children, new relatives. It's a lot harder to make a decision to leave here. Why do spouses break up? Why does love go away? Reasons enough:
- Unwillingness to accept a partner for who he is. Many people are mistaken, especially women, meeting with a man and noticing in him any drawback ( he smokes a lot, likes to drink, likes to command, sloppy)that she will re-educate him in family life. And begin endless notation, claims, sawing it. Who could stand it. There are conflicts and they become so much that it is impossible to tolerate and marriage is destroyed. We must clearly understand that it is impossible to re-educate an adult! You have to accept him for who he is. And love him so!
- Very often families break up because of life. It's hard to live with a man who annoys you in family life. In the candy-bouquet period, you did not notice that your beloved absolutely does not know how to cook. You didn't even think about it! And now, every evening, coming home tired and hungry, hoping for a delicious homemade dinner, you find your beloved at the computer. And your claim she truly did not understand. Why a favorite is angry? Well, order yourself something or go out for dinner! And at all she has diet! Or favorite turned out to be a terrible bore. Everything is wrong. Not there lies tooth paste, not so ironed shirt, food at all tasteless and so on. What happened to him all of a sudden? And during the courtship you have not encountered such a situation, and you have not lived together. Here comes the limit when you do not want to see and hear your companion. And divorce?
- There are such situations – everything in life changes! Just imagine: you are married for many years, much has been experienced over the years and suddenly you notice that your husband has changed! He's not what he used to be. Ceased to be interested in you, and as a woman and as a partner for life, just do not pay attention to you. Well, where is she now going to go away after so many years of living together? So you can not strain! You can yell at her, make tactless remarks, they say has aged, rudely talk, and in every possible way to demonstrate their indifference. Does a wife have to put up with it? Maybe it is my fault that I missed somewhere husband, but the conflict between spouses has arisen!
Or your spouse, for example, does not work. You told her to stay home. You have children, she does household chores: Laundry, Ironing, lessons, music school. And it turns all day at home, and you work, grow up the career ladder. And here are the years and you notice that in addition to household topics and you have nothing to talk about, and his wife has become a stupid, limited, and it is not interesting! I do not want to go home and my wife absolutely does not care. Problem! But if there object the excitement?
- The most hurtful and difficult parting occur because of infidelity, deception, jealousy, betrayal. But nothing comes out of nowhere! Why is the spouse cheating? Why was she always jealous of him?
To understand these severe cases, in each case, it is better to seek help from a psychologist. He will give you their recommendations, advice. In such moments of life counseling is a must.
In any case-lovers you or spouse-parting brings pain, humiliation, suffering. It is rare when a couple comes to a mutual agreement - to part. Always someone one offers this. And not always the rupture of relations occurs smoothly, without scandals, quarrels, mutual reproaches. Always someone one suffers more!
So maybe you should ask yourself, is it worth it? Can you still hope to save the relationship, save and improve it? Ask yourself: is it worth breaking off the relationship completely? Is there anything else we can do? Think about your attitude to your loved one, analyze your relationship, make the right conclusions, think – and whether it will be better for you without your "second half".
And if the breakup is inevitable – accept it with dignity. After all, everyone knows - time heals! And as the Eastern wisdom says: "Every meeting carries parting, every parting carries the promise of a new meeting." Who knows? Maybe you will meet a loved one and live happily with him!