Self-doubt, shyness and other manifestations of personal discomfort greatly complicate people's lives. And no one knows where these feelings come from. Maybe we are born this way, and maybe we gain in the process of life. Still, how to overcome self-doubt?
Most likely, it is an acquired quality that is formed from early childhood. After all, from the very first days of our lives we are greatly influenced by our parents.
If they constantly criticize their children, make fun of their shortcomings, then, most likely, grow up insecure children with low self-esteem. It is very difficult to get rid of the habit of feeling "not good enough."
Here are such "children" in life, head down, afraid of other people's opinions, constantly doubting themselves and their actions. And we communicate with peers, who also affect us both positively and negatively! Although almost all teenagers are experiencing a "crisis of adolescence", experiencing either problems in communicating with classmates, or constantly digging into themselves, finding fault with their own appearance. Teenage self-doubt passes over the years, but originated "from the cradle" is unlikely. And here it is best to seek help from a psychologist, whose professional help is needed. You have a long and hard work on yourself.
And yet how to overcome shyness, self-doubt, low self-esteem? To do this, you need to go through the following steps:
Open yourself
Understand yourself, what kind of person you are, think about what your dominant traits, ask yourself what scares you, what makes you happy. Determine what you want to achieve. Get rid of the past, leave in
all your doubts and failures. Do not compare yourself with others, but make your own opinion about yourself.
Love yourself
Love yourself is a must! After all, if You do not love yourself, how will others love you? And importantly for that? Praise yourself! Respect yourself! Find the advantages and positive traits and develop them in yourself, look straight into people's eyes, you have nothing to fear. And love yourself for being so wonderful!
Accept who You are
Learn to accept yourself as you are and love yourself as you are! And work on yourself, even though you have a lot of work to do on the way to gaining self-confidence! Rejoice for yourselves!
After all, every day you become more confident! And with self-confidence, You still have so many new things to discover!
Learn to think positively
Banish negative thoughts and emotions, they deprive us of self-confidence, have a great impact on our behavior. Think positively, for this purpose it is necessary to understand what the most frequent negative thoughts come to mind, what actions or actions most often we make. We look at the world with wide open happy eyes. We are not afraid to make mistakes. We do not react to failures. After all, he is not mistaken who does nothing! And even the slightest mistake should not bring you out of balance. And especially in any case do not escalate the situation! Do not write yourself in the "losers"!
As mentioned above, you need the help of a psychologist, where there is a huge and hard work, but to achieve success and recognition, respect and admiration, understanding and love, you have to go this way. And only working on yourself in overcoming feelings of self-doubt, shyness and, as a result, to overcome all these feelings, you will notice how life has blossomed in other colors, and how you perfectly exist in it! Good luck and success!