Each family goes through certain stages of development, and the transition from one to another is usually accompanied by a crisis. Any relationship, including family, sometimes experience difficulties,which is quite normal. However, sometimes these problems can have a negative impact on the relationship of spouses, become an overwhelming factor in family relations.
In order to understand the existing problem, family psychologists identify the main existing causes and obstacles that lead to the crisis:
- constant disputes within the family;
- disagreements between spouses;
- gap or absence in communication;
- temper tantrums, irritability, stress;
- avoidance in intimate relationships;
- lack of understanding of feelings for each other;
- personal age crises of spouses;
- differences in opinions, views, values and faith;
- financial problem;
- possible changes in family relations, e.g. birth of a child, divorce, mixed family;
- questions concerning the sexuality of one of the spouses;
- abuse of alcohol or use of drugs;
- bullying and harassment of one of the spouses;
- lack of trust and respect in the relationship.
Basically the family is the most important for the person and the problem, conflicts in family relationships can become a deep shock, which can lead to a negative impact:
- emotionality-anger, sadness, anxiety;
- stresses;
- spiritual and physical exhaustion;
- feeling isolated, alone;
- lack of concentration, problems with sleep and nutrition;
- difficulties in communicating with friends, colleagues and your children;
- the use of alcohol or drugs to forget, to escape from reality.
How to overcome the crisis in family relations:
1. Communication. Communication is the main dominant part and is often the first step towards reconciliation and finding solutions. It is necessary every time a conflict is brewing to talk, discuss and sort through what is happening? It's impossible to know what's going on without discussing it together. And even if your spouse does not want to make contact, find the right words and convince him to listen to you. Speak quietly, without raising his tone, without insults.
2. Accepting your differences and finding a compromise. This can help to avoid unnecessary conflicts, even though your partner has different views and it is difficult for you to agree with them. Each spouse must respect and accept the views and opinions of the partner.
3. The pleasure of the presence of a loved one. Even when you are experiencing difficulties in a relationship, it is very important to find time and spend it with your loved one. As much time as possible to devote to his wife, try to persuade him to go with you for a walk in the Park or at the exhibition, and you can arrange a dinner for two. Compliment him. Do not forget the words of love!
4. Scheduling. This will help to reduce stress and develop common goals for the benefit of family happiness. For example, in the case of financial problems in the family. And be sure to discuss all the items together, carefully listening to the opinion of the partner. Don't let anything go unsaid. And try to do everything exactly as planned.
5. Seeking help from a family psychologist in Moscow or in another city. It is not always possible to solve their problems on their own, this may require psychological assistance of a specialist. There is nothing wrong with coming to a consultation. And best of all together! After all, you do not want to bring your relationship to divorce. A specialist will give you the necessary advice, will understand your problem, because sometimes it is very difficult to understand how it all began, and by leading questions you can understand what is the cause of the conflict.
6. Don't make marriage a chore. Arrange family holidays, family dinners on weekends with the whole family, Hiking in the forest, Park. Don't stay home! Entertain your family and your half. Often present surprises, such as theater tickets, and the husband can give his wife a bouquet of flowers without a reason, just wanted to! Be cheerful in the family circle, do not show your bad mood, bring only positive emotions into the house, and leave the negative behind the door.
Some of the above problems in family relationships are the most common causes faced by many families. Working on them, there is a chance that in the future the situation will change for the better. Believe me, nothing is impossible!
You just have to make some effort! Family psychologist will help to solve your problems and disagreements!