Quite often, parents complain that they can not find a common language with their child, that the child does not want to share with them their problems and experiences or begins to be impertinent, deceive, cheat.
And they hardly find a common language. As a rule, this is due to the fact that parents pay little time to the child and no matter for what reasons, the result is always the same – the child is removed and it will be difficult to return his location.
Every parent should make every effort to become a child's friend. And always remember that he is older, more experienced and never evaluate the actions of children from the point of view of an adult.
Starting from early childhood, you should look for an approach to the child and make steps towards it. Try to understand his actions and actions. Because how you explain to him "what is good and what is bad", depends on your future communication with him, because it is you who form the worldview of the child. And your future relationships depend on you, whether you will become friends in the future or not.
A small child needs to be supported. Try not to shout at the child when he climbs into a puddle, and calmly and clearly explain to him that he will get wet. But even then, most likely, he will not understand you, he does not know what is wet until he gets wet.
Believe me, after a small amount of time he will realize that with wet feet to walk unpleasant. Always remember that the child is a person and you have to respect him from childhood, and he must learn the world, and you are his only assistant.
Develop your child, but do not forget about entertainment. It is very important to go with your child to the parks, attractions, zoo. Never make excuses just to sit at home! The child does not understand that mom and dad are tired or they have no time, there are some other important things. Nothing can be more important than your communication with him!
Encourage love for animals. Very good to have some pet, this encourages kindness and responsibility in children. If you on somehow objective reasons (Allergy) not you can lead the dog, or a cat, try explain child why you refuse him. And find an alternative-hamster, parrot, fish.
Try not to punish the child, and even more so to beat him! Always explain the situation to the child, why and for what reasons he should not do anything. For example, your child plays in the apartment with a ball, and you do not allow him.
Explain why, that he can break chandelier or vase, that better play with ball on the street. And even if the child did not listen, and eventually broke something, keep yourself in hand, show how much you are upset and next time he certainly will not play with the ball at home.
Respect your little child, listen carefully to him, pay attention to his interests and are interested in his Hobbies. Share with him your opinion and listen to him, no matter how stupid it may seem.
Already more adult sharply criticize his friends, and especially the child in their presence. This is unacceptable! Don't eavesdrop on his phone conversations, don't discuss them until he tells you. Be interested in his school life and his class, not just his grades.
You're more important to raise a good person, not a botanist! Love your child, educate with love. A child who has grown up in love and respect will never become an egoist, but will be your reliable support and friend in the future! If you find it difficult to understand what is going on, you need to make an appointment with a family psychologist, where you will have comprehensive psychological assistance