Thinking about the meaning of life, about his mission, a person, first of all, reflects on his work, on what he knows how, loves to do, and in which he benefits people. This is an important component of the global concept of human life, but far from the only one.
I think that no one doubts that having been born, the child should gradually learn to communicate in one way or another. Exactly what "must." Because without a means of communication it is impossible to teach it new, socialization is impossible, etc.
The fact is that we have many tasks throughout life that we must solve. Allow with success. That’s how it works. You can, of course, refuse them, snort, say "I don’t want, I won’t, I don’t need it." But life shows that it can press in the area where a person refuses to grow. In at least two ways: problems in this area and health problems that are somehow biologically related to outstanding tasks.
Below I will list the main points, without the implementation of which a person will feel not whole, as if destitute in something. Too much energy will be directed to hide even these “failed” areas from yourself. In general, a person cannot be calm, serene, happy without solving the following problems:
1. It is necessary to deal with feelings of shame and guilt. There is too much of this unproductive sensation in a person. Many times I asked those suffering from these feelings whether they help to transform themselves for the better, in the end. It always turns out that no. Something else, not fault, makes us change. Well, the fault should be maybe a little bit at the first stage of the error. Only as a signal that something needs to be changed in the future.
2. Feeling of grief, loss. If it is. Usually, any feeling of grief is connected with the fact that a person does not believe that he can have what he had before. It is possible and necessary to keep bright memories of that and of those who left.
3. Apathy. An extremely unpleasant sensation in which a person can get stuck for many years, if not for life, never breaking free without doing anything meaningful. However, I immediately say that it is possible to break free and to develop the right attitude towards impending apathy is also possible so that a person is no longer buried under it.
4. We can’t get past the following areas of our lives: love and sex, relationships with relatives, relationships with friends and colleagues, work, material well-being, health. If you give each area an assessment on a 10-point system, you can immediately see which areas are “failing”.
In theory, everyone should be rated at 8-10 points. Then a person can feel relaxed. Even if for all 10, but in any one sphere - 2-3, skew will be felt. And from this feeling that something is somewhere wrong, "do not hide, do not hide." Alas.
The good news is that it is easy to bring yourself to high scores in any chosen area of life. This requires attention to this area of life, removing internal obstacles to solving problems, creating a new model instead of a real unsuccessful one and using this model.
5. I think that many are familiar with the concepts of the internal Child, Parent and Adult.
If these internal states are deformed, unhappy, then, unfortunately, at a minimum, they will require energy to maintain them instead of helping you (the unhappy inner Child is a real energy pump, I must tell you). As a maximum, they will not perform those tasks that they are required to perform. For example, it is very difficult to be a non-adult mother to your child or a non-adult worker.
6. There is such a thing as enneagrams. Being a certain enneatype, a person is conditioned to act within his “programs”. It is necessary to decondition from beliefs, behaviors, conditions that are characteristic of a particular enneatype.
7. And finally, when all the previous points have been successfully resolved, you can begin to work. Of course, not in the sense that a person has never done anything before this moment. But he worked at the wrong level. Right now it can be Creativity with a capital letter. Right now you can think about the Summoning, Mission, Destination. The period begins when the head is literally free to receive new information, process it and create new ideas. After all, consciousness and the unconscious are not clogged with guilt, there is a feeling that you have coped with pressing problems, you are healthy.
I will stop here. Although you can write what tasks a person who has reached this peak solves before himself. It also has its own tasks, of course. These are the tasks of spiritual growth, overcoming earthly weaknesses, teaching new unusual qualities, etc. However, according to some reports, no more than 15% of people are at this level of development. The other 85% have not yet completed the tasks described in the first five points. Because there is still work to do.
Spiritual growth, out-of-body experience, etc. - this is all good, very interesting and even necessary. But only at that level of consciousness that allows you to truly do all this. If there is a load of unresolved problems behind, then a person simply cannot open himself to spiritual practices, as it should. And reading various texts and attending seminars will not help, alas. After them, the impression will remain that it is all very cool, beautiful, beckoning, but ... not for you. Not for you yet.
When I list the tasks that I’d like to work on, they say to me: “Is there so much to do, how can you do everything?”
Firstly, you can catch it. For several years, for sure.
Secondly, the eyes are afraid, the hands are doing.
Thirdly, “nothing really ends while we are alive,” Milton Erickson said and proved with his whole life that it is so.