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The article is subjective and expresses the personal opinion of the author.
In the first grade, it is officially considered that all children are well done, and they do not give marks. Fives and deuces appear in the electronic journal in the second grade, and not in the fifth, as many parents are convinced. Particularly zealous opponents of the point system insist that the child be assessed will cause moral trauma and beat off the desire to learn. Or deprive of faith in their own strength. Or they will develop "excellent student syndrome."
In my experience, all syndromes occur in parents, not in children. It is the parents who will bring the class teacher to white-hot, demanding to fix four by five or three by four. It is the parents with foam of indignation at the mouth who will reach the head teacher, demanding an “independent opinion”. And it is the parents who are ready to argue with the authors of the textbooks, recall typos in additional “handouts” and go out to the barricades because the child wrote “about” and the teacher read “a”, but this is not “a”, but the connection such.
But somehow everyone again forgets about the children and their features and about the fact that children with the grading system encounter much earlier than at school. And it is the parents who develop the dependence on the grades in the child.
My daughter Sima went to “preparations” in front of the first class, and there the children glued emoticons in notebooks. Or they gave out stickers - for a learned poem, for good behavior and other achievements. Stickers, like emoticons, were received by all children without exception. That no one was offended. Sima, looking at a smiley in a notebook or a sticker with a princess, cried. I could not understand what was the matter until she admitted: “I do not understand whether I did good or bad. After all, everyone gets emoticons and stickers. ”
Yes, my daughter needed grades, a clear, understandable, and honest system. I had to go to the teacher and ask her to rate Sime
And do not overstate. Because the daughter will immediately realize that she is being deceived. The teacher also argued with me, but I insisted. The daughter stopped crying and rejoiced at the five or agreed with the four - yes, made a stupid mistake.
Children are different. My daughter is a perfectionist. It was important for her to become an excellent pupil. She has such an internal structure, such a character, and not at all our parental requirements or expectations.
In the sense of evaluations, I’m generally an irresponsible mother: I look in an electronic journal once a week, and that’s if my daughter insists. I don’t see anything bad if the child skips the lesson, and I don’t let my daughter sit at home after eight in the evening. Did not read the paragraph - no. You will read at the break. Or you read then two or four at once - not a tragedy.
Moreover, the daughter has an example of her older brother before her eyes. My son received either two or five all his school life. There were no other options. He participated and won in the Olympiads, but in school everyday life he was a stable lap-dog and lap-walker. In his journal there was always a complete bacchanalia: 2222, period, period, which promised to turn into deuces for the next failure of the verse or unsolved problems in physics, and by the end of the trimester all deuces disappeared and he received the final five. Or four, if you didn’t do anything at all.
I remember very well how a chemistry teacher called me to school and begged to influence my son: he won the school stage of the Olympiad, but does not want to write the final test. And refuses to go to the district stage. In the end, the chemist locked my son in his office and forced me to write the final annual control in order to calmly put him five in a year. The case seems to have happened in December.
I remember how I wrote an essay on Mum for my son and got two points. My husband, a writer and journalist, was tormented by an essay on Taras Bulba
He used the “History of Russian Literature of the 19th Century” of the 1908 edition edited by D. N. Ovsyaniko-Kulikovsky. Several generations of our family wrote essays on this book, with poems. The result is a triple with a minus. The son laughed so that his stomach was almost torn. However, we also smiled. It was funnier only that I, studying with Yuri Levitansky, took only fifth place in the poetry contest, and my husband with an art school behind him could not correctly portray the heading for the poster “Our class”.
But there were other examples. Again from elementary school. Our teacher gave everyone marks in the first grade. In the diary - ordinary, paper, not electronic. So that parents pay attention to the dirt in the notebook, to the fact that the child needs help in preparing their homework, or to remind that no one has canceled the delivery of the “reading technique”.
There was a boy in the class - certainly capable, but nervous, restless, with speech therapy problems. The teacher threw up her hands. She talked with dad, with grandmother, with another grandmother. But the boy was seriously ill mother. And he was told by all family members: “If you get a troika, your mother will be upset and die.” The child began to stutter even before he was called to the board.
The teacher put him fours and fives, although he did not know anything. The boy’s mother died, his name was changed, he was transferred to his father’s new family, he was ordered to call his stepmother a mother. Grandmothers continued to repeat: “If you study hard, your dad will kick you out. Why does he need a twosome in the house? ”If the teacher at the beginning knew about the situation in the family, then in high school teachers were not obliged to go into details. And they gave the child well-deserved marks, that is, deuces.
There is another boy. For three days he lives with his mother, three with his father, and one with his grandmother. Forgotten do not understand in whose house notebooks, textbooks, sports uniforms, sneakers. Unlearned lessons, because dad dragged his son to paintball and a bath, and his grandmother - pressure. Only mom tries to follow her son’s studies and is always to blame.
In case of any problems, the father immediately intends to deprive the mother of parental rights, calls the school principal and writes complaints to the Ministry of Education
Such a professional brawler. Yes, in elementary school, the teacher went into a position to protect the child and mother from the hysteria of the father, and grandmother - from a pressure surge, in the senior - they put on deuces and threaten expulsion.
Children involved in sports face grades as early as five years of age, when they begin to take the OFP and participate in competitions. What is the final protocol with ratings, they are well aware. Some trainers have accepted the assessment with the help of pluses that can be earned, but which can be easily lost. And children need these pluses. Young children run out joyful, shouting that there are already three pluses, and for five they will receive candy or chocolate from the trainer.
It is thanks to the plus system that my daughter calmly perceives the new mathematician. He does not put marks in the journal. He puts pluses in a notebook. But it is not known how many of these signs you need to get and what gives a plus or minus sign. My daughter learned a long time ago that there are not many pluses, and every lesson answers. And her best friend decided that since there is no five in the magazine, she will no longer raise her hand.
Assessments, of course, do not always reflect the child’s real knowledge. But they can help parents pay attention to him. “Again deuce?” - this question parents should ask themselves.
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