There is no consensus – what term is considered the ideal age difference between children. It can be 5 years, and 10 years, and even 15-20! In any case, even ten years is a significant age difference between children. Why do women give birth so late after the birth of their first child?
There are many reasons for this, because pregnancy can be long-awaited, sometimes completely unplanned, someone gives birth to a common child in another marriage.
The most important thing is the prudent approach of parents to this event and their further actions, how they will cope with this task, because for the older child the appearance of the younger can be a blow, cause a storm of negative emotions, jealousy.
Therefore, it is necessary to consider how to present information about the birth of a brother or sister, so as not to upset and not to upset your child with this news.
After all, as a rule, such a reaction occurs in the first moment. Imagine-you were the only center of attention in the family and everything is done exclusively for you, and then there should be someone else, new and unfamiliar, and now everyone will "dance" around him! It is quite difficult to immediately accept such a message to a teenage child spoiled by the love of parents. But how to do it is up to adults, only they know the nature and disposition of their child, only they are able to find the right words.
In the future, when the baby was born, there are other risks of losing contact and understanding with their older child. Do not make him a nanny (no matter what sex he is), do not load with worries about the baby. He must remain in his usual surroundings, with his usual Hobbies and pastimes.
Of course, you can sometimes ask to sit with a small, but not mandatory and ordered. It is very important to understand, because he is also still a child and he, in turn, needs the attention and participation of mom and dad. Over time, parents will notice how big will mess with the little one, with what attention and trepidation and how he will like to "educate" his younger brother/sister, taking care of and protecting him.
After all, in fact, a big age difference in children has one huge advantage-children will never quarrel and fight over toys, because they have absolutely different gaming interests!
The elder will not take away and even more so to play with the toys of the younger, and the little one, on the contrary, will develop faster, watching his "adult" brother or sister. Between them the theme of rivalry existing between children with a small age difference is excluded. And hardly have to wear things that very often annoys and hurts kids.
Very often parents themselves admit an omission in the education of their children, zabalueva smaller and losing sight of the older child. Since the first appearance of a baby in the house, adults have to explain to the senior that all the children for their welcome and loved, and no difference between them, if only for a few years.
Have your built should not emerge sense of uselessness, the more envy, to he not grew unloved and malicious, uncertain and with low self-esteem man. It is for this reason that many people seek psychological help and services of a psychologist. Mental injuries inflicted by parents due to inattention and inability to establish contact in such a situation, remain for life and it is very difficult sometimes to get rid of them.
In fact, the optimal age difference between children should not worry the adult generation, madly in love with their children. After all, proper education and approach to their own children guarantee a happy family life, harmony and healthy atmosphere in the house. And what else can so please all of us as not smiling and glowing eyes of our children!