We talk a lot about letting go for some time. Letting go to be more Zen, to refocus on the essentials and to take a step back.
I admit that the first time I bought a book on letting go, ten years ago, I was a little disappointed.
There was a lot of things to do to let go and suddenly, it was more like a program to stick to it than to let go!
Then I dug the question, if only for the many patients who approached the subject in the form of question precisely "but how do we let go? "
Letting go is what exactly? And above all, what is it not?
Because it must be said that there is a paradox between the expectations of our society: "perform well at work, play sports, eat healthy, spend time with your family, take time for yourself" and .... "Relax a little bit of it". One should know, one must let go or on the contrary, hold well.
Nevertheless, the all-control is illusory, we know it well. Look, as recently as 15 days ago, I had planned a whole day "house cleaning in the house" calculated to the minute: I had planned to perform a number of tasks, I had Equipped with all the necessary household products, I had taken a day off and had my children looked after. Oh, how good I felt to have done everything to do that. And then when you start, with this feeling of being a little queen of the day, I see ... a water cut! For the whole day. I raged inside, then I smiled. Yes, we do not control anything. Even if we try.
So letting go is not doing anything, not feeling anything, not expecting anything from life, never being hurt. Because life is full of imperfections without which we would be bored, right?
To let go is to accept the limit between all our projects, our efforts, our actions and the results obtained.
We have an obligation of means, yes, but not an obligation of results. And the fact of knowing it, it relieves funny: less feeling of guilt when it does not arrive there, better acceptance of the moments when one is not in form, pleasure to be in the present moment.
Letting go is no more complicated than that. It's not about doing things to get there, but about accepting the limit of doing it for our being. Because we are much more than what we do.
And it is really saying, sincerely, that if it does not happen as we want, it does not matter.
You do not think ?