Quite often I am asked the question, what to do in a situation where you meet a person and want to be with him, but there is a family. It is good if they seek help from an experienced psychologist, and do not torment themselves with terrible torments and experiences about it.
After all, it is very difficult to make a decision to leave or stay, especially after living in marriage for a sufficient number of years.
In this article I want to consider the illustrative cases of "triangle".
A love triangle with a woman
A woman in 40 years meets a man and they have a passion that turns into love, they want to be together, but she has a husband and an adult daughter. Husband for 25 years of marriage apparently tired and bored, feelings have long faded and the relationship between them is almost none. The daughter grew up and " flew out of the nest."
And here a new intriguing novel, emotions going wild, want a new happiest life. Husband finds out about the affair, makes a terrible scandal, then came down with high blood pressure. Poor woman I feel sorry for him, began to torment twinge of conscience, because you cannot just erase from his life so many years of marriage.
Yes, connect relatives, the daughter of an angry and tadashima with the words like sensible, what you're doing, not ashamed! And a new beloved bedevils questions "When you decide on divorce and will you come me to live?"What to do in such a delicate situation? How to be?
Here you can see two choices – either to stay with the unloved husband and live with him out of pity or to leave to her beloved man. What do you want?" That's the way. Only in the first case, the husband will not forgive infidelity and at every opportunity will reproach, and in front of relatives awkwardly.
And in the second case, you do not know how everything will turn out. It is terrible to change something in your life, because changes are always accompanied by stress and experiences!
A man in a love triangle
A man of 50 years fell in love with another woman, and it does not even matter how old she is and that she is younger than his wife, it is important that he is very much in love and does not represent his life
without it. And behind a long marriage, children. And against the wife he has nothing, just now loves another. And wife and children although they are adults, pathetic, and embarrassing as that.
Here is that in these circumstances take? Two families? Leaving your wife and your routine? After all, with a new lover must begin anew to build relationships and family hearth. And before children it is a shame and before all relatives.
Of course, in such circumstances, help psychologaprosto necessary, it is necessary to speak out, try to deal with their own passions and desires. After all, often it seems to us insignificant important, and valuable can not notice, neglect, miss by. Just do not run for advice to friends and girlfriends, that's who is biased, it is they know too much, and therefore are unable to respond adequately.
Relatives, too, not need to dedicate in their problems, especially children. It is not necessary to injure them ahead of time, because in any case, they will experience and suffer.
All in good time, do not rush to a decision, it is desirable to calmly and soberly assess the situation, to understand their relationships in previous families and gradually find a way out, because there are no hopeless situations!