Almost all people find it very difficult to determine their desires, to understand how it is still necessary to act in a given situation, how it will be better for themselves and for others who need your opinion.
The decision-making process is very complex, because taking a certain decision, we take on some responsibility, and this, in turn, implies absolute confidence in their own rightness and recognition that you are absolutely right in his act, that you are able to influence the course of events.
Believe me, not everyone is ready to take on this responsibility. I, as a family psychologist, very often have to deal with such problems. For example: a husband and wife can not decide which school to send a child-a first-grader.
My husband says to give to the school to his wife, where she successfully works as a teacher, and the wife wants to school close to home, considering that it is so comfortable and afraid to spoil the child with excessive attention. What to do in this situation?
It would seem – and what to think, and the problem is not great! But the issue concerns the upbringing and education of the child, so this is an important topic for a family that wants to grow a decent person. And none of the family members wants to take responsibility in making a decision.
Why? Because, apparently, if something goes wrong, he will feel guilty. No one has confidence in his decision. And confidence lies in knowing that you are right and really know that you are able to analyze the situation and make a responsible decision. All! The circle closed.
So, on this example, I wanted to show that taking any decision it is necessary, having analyzed circumstances and conditions, to feel a certain confidence in the correctness and to assume responsibility in its acceptance.
Examples of our everyday insecurities many, this occurs at every step: whether to buy a new car or old, you don't need, do you need a wife a fur coat or down jacket is fine whether to ask the bosses to increase wages or better to wait for some time and so on.
The main thing is always to approach any question reasonably, weighing all the "pros" and "cons", even on a piece of paper, dividing it vertically, in one column positive, in another negative, write it down, so it will be clearer. Calmly and honestly analyze your situation, take responsibility and willingness to recognize that the result that you get is the result of your actions and make a decision. Be confident!
If all the same, it is really difficult to make a decision, and you need advice, it is better to turn to an experienced psychologist, who will provide expert assistance in a difficult situation and help determine the conclusions.
Also on my site you can take psychological tests online that will help you get to know yourself or just have a good time. I do not insist on a serious scientific basis of these tests, I just want to emphasize the mystery of each person, his peculiarity and uniqueness.
Everything depends on the truthfulness of the answers to the questions, the sincerity and desire to know yourself in certain situations. Of course, to open your inner "I", some of these tasks are not enough, but thanks to them, You will be able to understand a lot and contribute to the resolution of Your problems.