It is impossible to designate such a difficult period in a woman's life as a crisis by age limits. After all, each of us is individual, unique, special! And each is the understanding of the years lived at different ages. Someone already 35 years old starts to think: "if I live, I want to achieve?»
Thus summing up a certain result. And someone fifty never occurred to ask similar questions, there lives a person and nothing grieves. Here still it is necessary to consider certain mental development and education of the person. And the period is really difficult, incomprehensible and responsible, but for some reason it is called a crisis!
What is a midlife crisis? This is an emotional and psychological state that leads to the understanding and reassessment of their lives. Someone is given a very painful and difficult, this period lasts long enough, with the consequences of prolonged depression, and someone rationally draws conclusions, summing up and enjoying their own experience. Someone needs the help of a psychologist, and someone enough to discuss everything with a friend or loved one. All women are different and there is no one similar! But surprisingly, the symptoms of this condition are the same, almost every woman experiences:
- the concern that life is unfair to her;
- self-pity;
- a kind of emptiness, shattering;
- state of despondency and depression, discouragement;
- dissatisfaction with career, marriage;
- irritability to others.
As a rule, in this state, a person brings a certain line, the result of how to be and live on, drawing conclusions and following his own experience, continues to work and love, but in a different "changed, corrected" form. This is a kind of turning point, a new "transitional age", when you really want to change your life and not just change, but turn it into a better and better side, based on your mental baggage and a huge life experience.
Many women are concerned not only with mistakes and failures, unfinished something in the past, terribly afraid of impending old age, the fear of becoming ugly and unattractive, to be uninteresting.
Also during this period, many people want actually to radically change all of their preferences and habits, therefore, lost friendships, and even there is a split in the family, if both spouses at the same time suddenly catches up with this notorious crisis.
How to overcome the midlife crisis? Advice of the psychologist as follows:
- calm down and gather your courage;
- prioritize your personal life and career;
- firmly decide what you want to take with you into the future, and what you need to get rid of, which in any case should not be pulled for yourself;
- do not MOPE and do not be discouraged, if something does not suit in life, fight with your own depression and despondency, otherwise it will lead to years of depression;
- change, both internally and externally. Go to theaters, exhibitions, cafes and restaurants, dress beautiful and fashionable. Buy a subscription to a sports club, pull up, you can do a diet, proper nutrition. Do not forget about beauty salons!
"don't feel sorry for yourself. It's not so bad after all!
It is quite normal to analyze your inner state and ask questions about the correctness of your life. Every loving and self-respecting woman should experience such feelings and emotional shocks, this is our psychological and moral development, the quality of our lives and, accordingly, our family and children depends on it!