Why is it assumed that the shyness and shyness, typically girlish traits. Many girls are decorated, someone interferes with life, it all depends on the image and standard of living.
But how many young people suffer from this "disease"? To me, as a psychologist, very often turn men aged 18 to 30 years for advice: - " how to get rid of shyness and shyness?".
Basically, it is the problem of communicating with the opposite sex, associated with a terrible embarrassment to meet, come and talk to the girl you like. If at home, at University or at work they somehow adapt to avoid "sharp corners" in dealing with people, trying not to draw attention to themselves, and even then, just because they are already familiar, then in contact with an unfamiliar woman it is very difficult for them. Incredible shyness and shyness prevent to take a step forward.
At this point, the fear of being funny, awkward and uninteresting paralyzes and shackles the person, further generating self-doubt and dissatisfaction with yourself.
Why is this person? This is either an innate character trait, or a problem in education, when one of the parents was too strict and demanding of the child, thus, since childhood, introducing him into complexes of his own inferiority. In any case, if a young person wants to be more courageous and open to new acquaintances, you should try to change yourself.
Although many women like men modest and quiet, because, as a rule, such people are very thin and sensitive, unsophisticated and not arrogant. And it is very valuable qualities, girls with pleasure will get acquainted with such guy. He just needs to overcome his fear to take the first step, to overcome it.
First, understand yourself, what traits do not like. If it's shyness, try to work on it. For example, every day talk to a completely unfamiliar girl, ask how to get somewhere, how much is the ticket, where the nearest stationery store. Can be simply smile, meeting glance. Improvise!
In any case, do not be shy about your own appearance. For men, this is not the main advantage. You can go to the salon, make a fashionable haircut, dress carefully and it is desirable to visit a sports club.
Try to communicate with girls of your circle and social status. Typically, this, too, girls modest and timid. Look for a similar girl, she will never be able to "drive into the blush", do not put in an awkward position.
Do not hide your emotions and feelings, within reasonable limits, of course. Learn to compliment. Start with your mom, sister, co-worker.
Do not invent an idol for yourself, do not look up to any celebrity, no matter how significant it is, do not put anyone above yourself.
The main thing-love and respect yourself! Otherwise, how will others love you? Become, first of all, meaningful to yourself. Be proud of yourself and positive character traits. Every day inspire confidence and determination, self-confidence and firmness of character!