I'm still in childbed and somehow still in the baby bubble. Which is good. The Kennlernphase is for the baby and for the rest of the family something very special and very important for all of us. And sometimes it is quite turbulent with fresh baby. Luckily, there are midwives because they are the mainstay for new moms and their babies.
We conducted an interview with midwife and Curaprox brand ambassador Dayo Oliver. She tells us about her everyday life as a midwife and also about the products of Curaprox and why she can recommend them.
Hauptstadtmutti: Why did you become a midwife?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: The birth and the pregnancy have always interested me. According to my mother I always gave birth to my dolls as a child. Soon after I graduated I realized that I wanted to continue towards the midwife.
Hauptstadtmutti: Does the profession keep what he promises you?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: He's even nicer than I expected. In my imagination a birth was much more hectic than in reality. Movies always convey the wrong picture: lots of action, bubble jump, excitement. Of course, there are emergencies in which everything goes haywire. But as a rule, the profession of midwife is quiet, beautiful and natural. You can take your time if you do not have four women at the same time to birth. A birth is a long process and it can be very quiet in a delivery room. The mood sometimes gives rise to spiritual thoughts.
Hauptstadtmutti: What is spiritual?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: First and foremost it is the women themselves. They are extreme with themselves. They work with their body. Watching them is almost a spiritual experience. It is fantastic that the female body and nature govern and guide the birth. This hiding anything unimportant in life I think is exceptionally beautiful.
Hauptstadtmutti: Can you concentrate yourself well and hide a lot?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: Not always. My ability to concentrate totally depends on how much sleep I had. After a hectic night I have no peace in the work. But if I'm well rested, I can get involved in moments very well and I'm focused.
Hauptstadtmutti: How are you yourself in the delivery room?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: I'm often silent. I do not have to talk much and let nature prevail. I'm just there.
Hauptstadtmutti: What makes a good midwife?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: A good midwife supports the woman in her birth so that it suits her. Of course, always under the condition that the safety for mother and child is guaranteed. A midwife must respond to the wishes and needs of a woman. Anyone who overruns the women and implements his own ideas does something wrong in this profession and moves more in the direction of assault than in the direction of assistance.
Hauptstadtmutti: A good midwife is therefore hardly noticeable, as a referee?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: That's right. (laughs) It occurs when processes are no longer correct and there is a risk. Simply without whistle and yellow and red cards.
Hauptstadtmutti: How many children did they help to come into the world?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: There have been around 300 children so far. I do not count anymore. The work with the women before the actual birth is not included. I cared much more for women who later gave birth to another colleague.
Hauptstadtmutti: Why that?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: Sometimes I look after women for eight hours, and the birth is still far away. Only two, three hours after my replacement it is time. A colleague will then have taken over.
Hauptstadtmutti: Is an initiated but not experienced childbirth worth less to you?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: No, for me it's also a birth.
Hauptstadtmutti: Do you give birth and do you physically experience the efforts of women?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: That can happen. Sometimes I catch myself pressing a woman. A birth can be very stressful for me. Especially, of course, when a situation is not clear and requires special measures.
Hauptstadtmutti: Can you switch off well afterwards?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: I take a lot of my work home.
Hauptstadtmutti: They give a lot, actually everything. If you are nervous, the women are nervous too. How do you protect yourself and your women?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: Over time, I had to learn that. As a young midwife I could not do it very well. In the meantime I am calm in many situations. When it gets hectic in the delivery room, my job is for the woman to focus on me. We both stay calm in the midst of the hustle and bustle. I have to convey that.
Hauptstadtmutti: Is there a trick?
Midwife Dayo Oliver: I am aware that in moments or hours of birth I must be there for the woman alone. That's the whole trick.
To be continued...
