During this time, I have been busy making gifts for my friends. I found an interesting phenomenon. The friends around me are divided into two categories. One type allows me to think about what gifts to send, and they like to wait for a surprise. The other type is customary. When the birthday is over, they will report directly to what they want, and even send the link to me. I just have to pay the bill directly.
I talked with my friends about this and found that many couples are also using the latter method. What's more, they take the policy of “shooting” or “reimbursement” directly, and even the procedures for buying are done by themselves. You must pay first or later.
Some friends like this way and feel simple and affordable. If you send something that you don't like at all, let's not, throw it away, and transfer is not appropriate. I feel very embarrassed. A friend said that one year her husband had a whim and gave her a very valuable bag on her birthday, but the style of the bag was completely unsatisfactory. She looked at her husband’s excited and expecting eyes and didn’t know how to “perform”. ". Later, the bag was hung at home, and she only carried it once. She feels that she knows this before, but it is better to tell her husband the style she likes in advance, and spend the same amount of money, but the effect will be completely different.
I admit that this approach does have its advantages, whether it is as a gift recipient or a gift giver, I have benefited. However, in my own personal experience, this way, there is no birthday atmosphere.
Like most people, I always look forward to receiving gifts on holidays or birthdays. At this time, I always reminded me of the spring tour in elementary school. When I grew up, I gradually realized that the most enjoyable part of the spring tour was not the time of play, but the excitement and hope before the spring tour. Sitting in the classroom the day before the spring tour, I had no intention of fighting, and all my thoughts were about what to bring tomorrow, and who I want to play with. In fact, it is not important to go where to play, how the scenery is, and how the weather is. I think the same is true for gifts. The most exciting and enjoyable moment to receive a gift is to wrap the gift perfectly on the wrapper and hold it in your hand to see the shape and size of the box. Once you have a weight, listen to the sound in your ear and guess what will be inside. Unpacking the box is a short-lived moment that people will never miss.
Of course, after the box is opened, the situation will always be different. Sometimes I can receive the gift I just want, and the feeling of being in the middle of my mind is especially gratifying. There are times when the gift is not what you have recently wanted, but you can't do it. It will create an unexpected joy. I can't wait to dance on the spot. Most of the time, I will take photos and upload it to the Internet to show off. But sometimes it's really embarrassing, the gift doesn't like it at all, but in order not to hurt the other's heart, I still have to dress up like it, which is a bit difficult for myself. But think about it, in fact, receiving the gift itself is a happy thing, whether it is fancy or practical, it is cheap, expensive, it is like, or it is not desirable, it is after all Carrying a sentiment and blessing, so I will accept it. Besides, just because the gift in the box is not known to you, full of possibilities, it brings the wonderful mood when the box is removed. The things you need can be purchased by yourself, and the wonderful mood can only be given by others.
Moreover, I like to hear the story behind the gift. After the gift is usually opened, my friend will tell me why I chose to give me this gift, how to get through the selection of the gift, and how to make a difficult choice. When I was the one who gave the gift, I also enjoyed the nervous and anxious mood waiting for my friend to open the gift. Sometimes when I choose a special gift, I will be more happy than the other, and I will see the happy smile on their faces. I feel happier than them.
So I think that the meaning of a gift is not an opportunity to get what you want. Instead, on important days, send or receive the blessings of the loved ones, express their feelings, and leave a happy and memorable memory. This is a process of mutual communication. The key is not how much money is spent, but how much the other party is willing to spend to figure out your preferences and wishes, and how much time they are willing to know each other.
People always miss youth, not because life is not successful or beautiful. It’s just that today, everything has been fixed. People prefer the mood when they are young and waiting to see what kind of gift they give themselves.