In the Clinical Psychological Clinic, many male patients feel that they have no obvious feeling of discomfort, but in sex life, there is a lingering sense of fatigue.In this part of the crowd, especially the busy"weekend couples".
Just when you're in your Prime, you lose your libido?
She was a young woman in her 30s, and her husband, who was five years her senior, was the boss of an advertising agency.When the couple first got married, the husband's career was just beginning.
In recent years, her husband's company has improved greatly, but Xiaolan is increasingly not satisfied with him.Every morning to go out, until late at night to go home, either a mouth wine gas, or a face tired, to the sofa fell to sleep.
She was always in front of the outside world, and her husband was always in excess of energy, but when he returned home he was slumberless, occasionally living a one-time life, and her husband was absent-minded, and she wanted to finish it both ways.Xiaolan self is a very attractive woman, but now completely changed, the husband seems to no longer have a crush on her body, Xiaolan naturally think more.
So she followed her husband several times, but once did not catch her husband "affair" handle.The husband is really busy at work, busy planning, busy socializing, busy meeting...... in short, every day busy things.
Little Orchid helpless to think, instead of this, as well as to return to the previous years of pain, couple love love, endless sweetness and happiness, and now, the money earned more than in the past, the couple's "love" but less.
Where does"exhaustion" come from?
The 32-year-old said: "busy work every day, the mind is to see customers, meetings, heart blocking uncomfortable, where there are other thoughts.」
Sex experts told reporters that stress, depression and other negative emotions are the root cause of sexual fatigue.Urban people suffering from sexual fatigue is not age, health is also very good, for them, the most important factor to suppress sexual desire is slowly accumulated mental fatigue, this because of various life frustrations, stress and inhibition of"sex" interest, stable marriage and marital physical and mental health will have a greater devastation.
There are also some experts in sexology from deep thinking about the problem of"sexual fatigue".They see this as a reflection of the disorder of contemporary humanity.On the one hand, foreign notions of sexuality have had a great influence on the younger generation, and they have created confusion in indulgence; on the other hand, the fast pace of modern society has disrupted the family life of the people.A considerable number of people's psychological(physiological)rhythm too late to adjust or adapt, and then inevitably spread to the sex life, so that "sexual fatigue" has become a common phenomenon.
Fatigue is also positive.
Sexual fatigue is more common in men, some men on their own"sexual fatigue"brooding, in this regard, sex experts do not think necessary, sexual fatigue also has its positive significance.
Fatigue is inevitable, natural, has a protective effect on the recovery of physical strength.Sexual fatigue has an adaptation process, just as people are familiar with the process of exercise fatigue, labor fatigue, adaptation and habituation, the fatigue of sexual life will also be with the familiar, adaptation and habit, naturally come to the common life of the couple for many years.If this kind of sexual fatigue causes couples self-psychological torture, it will affect the family harmony and the couple's physical and mental health.
Sexologists have said that since the common life for many years of "dull couples" into the fatigue period is normal, "sexual fatigue" is an objective existence.Then the most important thing is how to face.How couples nurture their emotions, nurture and even develop sex, enjoy sex, will become an important topic of contemporary urban people.Specifically, targeted to solve the problem, it is feasible.
For couples with a stressful work life cycle, communicate and talk before you have sex.Pouring is a good method of pressure release, when the pressure is released,"sex" fun naturally back.
For couples who have spent too much time "fatigued" by the "sexiness", the couple should first create a good atmosphere before sex, drop the topic of work and life, transform a way of emotional communication, abandon the dry "dedication" type of duty, to enjoy to participate in each other's sexual bliss.
Four formulas for relieving sexual fatigue
For how to solve the problem of sexual fatigue, sex experts think the following four principles, there must be one for you.These four principles, we may wish to call the "four Formula".
Formula 1: sex with desire, sex is not standard
Do not feel that once a week to do love, with people Night Music is not normal, as long as both husband and wife feel sexual satisfaction, even if half a month to do a love is not normal.Each person's physiological needs are not the same, do not give sexual life under the indicators, such as how many times a week to do love, each time can not be less than how much time.And the individual's sex life will be different, need to be fully coordinated, can not according to their own bar to ask each other to cooperate with the box rigid.
Formula 2: emotional contact is not necessarily sexual.
It is wrong that men generally believe that sexual contact must include sexual intercourse, and that sexual activity involves many aspects.Women are most aware of the fact that it is enough to have some kind of thoughtfulness.That is, when she offered to hug you, do not necessarily ask you to "move the real", maybe she just want to find a warm feeling.
Formula Three: plan to carry out
Sex is not necessarily a plan.In the two human life time uncoordinated, etc., make a "sex life plan" is actually a favorable thing, a very emotional enjoyment.For example, some people like to have sex late at night, some like to have sex in the morning,in order not to affect the sleep and work, they can have agreed with each other, so that there will be no"sex" does not coincide with each other, do not enjoy the situation and sleep.
ormula Four: play a little romantic tricks
The old couple all familiar with the old place can no longer be familiar with, eyes closed eyes open a kind of, then play a little romantic play creative.For example, play "lover sex act", from time to time about dating and then go to the past little restaurant to eat a meal, then go to the river side to see the stars look at the moon, and then go to the hotel to go over the night, no longer go home to fight with those chores, let the pressure fade, withLet love have no fixed pattern, like the sun rising every morning, every day is new.