As you know, I had Caesarean sections in my first two children, both NOT planned and not wanted, but unfortunately necessary. At the beginning of the third child I already knew that it would become a caesarean section again. So this time a planned cesarean section.
Why it is like that?
I also did not really understand that at the beginning. Why is it possible to give birth spontaneously after a cesarean section, but not after two cesarean sections? My gynecologist, my midwife and also the doctor in the hospital then explained it to me. Basically it's the inner scarring, especially the scarring of the uterus. The more often one cuts through them, the more labile the scar tissue is and the more susceptible it is to rupture during labor. In turn, a womb rupture is absolutely life-threatening for both mother and child.
I would have liked to have a "normal" birth.
But what does "normal" mean? I've talked to so many mothers about their births in recent years. And each one is different, even with every child. There is basically no "normal". Even with spontaneous births, there are great differences and it can also be quite blatant injuries and pain long time after birth.
So I found myself thinking of a planned caesarean section at some point and prepared myself inwardly for it. As a precaution, I signed in to two different hospitals to see if there were any differences. I already had some panic before the cesarean section. Because it's already a big belly surgery and then the PDA. And so I did the birth preparation talks twice. Twice the doctor's talk, twice the conversation with the anesthetists.
Is there a connection between a cesarean section, the PDA and back blockage?
That was the question that I asked all the doctors, because last year I had a pretty severe back blockage with spasmodic back pain, from which I recovered only slowly. When I finally knew that I was pregnant, I was shocked at first, because I was very afraid that my back would not agree, but the more the pregnancy progressed, the less the back pain. Sometime in the fifth month, so pretty early, they were completely gone (and have not come back yet).
One night, when I woke up and thought about the cesarean section, it suddenly occurred to me that the reverse blockade occurred exactly where the PDAs were set at the time. So I asked my midwife if that could be. She said yes and said that she already had some mothers who suddenly had back blocks after three or five years after cesarean sections or PDAs. I also told my gynecologist. She said that from a medical point of view, there was no connection. And I also asked all the doctors and the anesthetists in the hospitals. Most did not want to see a connection, except for the senior doctor in the hospital, for which we then decided. Since I was a little happy, but also surprised that doctors then often do not see the big picture (want). Too bad. Oh well. We are back in the hospital in Berlin Pankow, where our first two children were born. It's not that big, it does not have a neonatal station, but it's quieter and less action. I suddenly found that very reassuring.
A planned cesarean section
I have never had a planned cesarean section. That's a funny thing. A week before, I learned the birthday and the day before, the exact time. That meant also, Zodiac and Ascendant were basically predetermined. Is that bad? I dont know. The zodiac sign was stuck anyway. And in the end, only the little person counts.
So on Monday afternoon I knew, the next morning it starts. 7 o'clock we should be in the hospital. For us that meant planning again. Actually, the kids should go to school and kindergarten, but if we are to be in the hospital at 7 o'clock, we can not do it properly. So the grandparents have to come to Berlin and take over? And then no school and no kindergarten? Yes, that's probably how it was best and so we did it. The grandparents arrived in the evening and we were all very excited from the moment we arrived.
Strangely, I was able to sleep very well, which was probably due to the normal pregnancy fatigue.
The farewell to the boys and my parents was kind of hard and everyone was close to tears. We all did not really know what to expect. Of course we went from the best, but you never knew ... It was a mixture of fear and anticipation.
To be continued....
