Many people say that women like honest men, especially when looking for marriage partners. In fact, I want to tell you that women never really like an honest man.
The correct understanding of women who like honest men is that women like reliable men, not honest men. Honest man does not like women.
There is a big difference between being honest and reliable.
Honestly, it means not lying, honest. However, the characteristics associated with this in real life are basically derogatory, such as stupidity, easy to be deceived, vulnerable to bullying, and unable to understand what happened after being deceived and bullied. Think about it, which woman of this man would like it. Really like him, it is basically more honest than her.
Reliable is not the same, reliable people are not only honest and trustworthy, but also very smart, and in most cases are not stupid. If a person is only honest and not smart, he is also very dependent, and you will not be assured of giving important things to him. This is the difference between honest and reliable.
Many women said that they want to find an honest man to live, but actually want to find a reliable man to live. Really incompetent, can not find reliable, can only choose an honest point. However, looking for an honest man will be more boring. This is because honest men have other characteristics that are difficult for women to accept. The biggest point is that they are boring, incomprehensible, and not romantic.
There aren't many that are really worthy of the title of an honest man. Generally, there will be one in more than 20 people, that is, about 5%. I have been exposed to several such honest men, and their marriage life generally takes two forms. One is that the husband and wife are more honest, live a life, and are as dull as water. The other is that the wife is uneasy, and likes to bet outside the butterfly or beheaded in front of the public. If a woman can grasp the size, the problem is not big, but the man will bear a lot of pressure from public opinion. But in many cases, women can't grasp this measure, or they can only grasp the measure within a certain period of time. Then they found a man who was not honest.
Some people don't quite understand why women are looking for unscrupulous men to derail? In fact, the same is true of falling in love. Women prefer to talk to unfair men, and honest men are only willing to talk about life.
Not honest, it does not necessarily mean that this person is very poor. Of course, there is no denying that some unfair men are not good. But a man who is not honest is relative, and the standard of judgment should refer to the average of the society. I believe that no one will not lie, and very few people have not lied. The motivation for everyone to lie is different. Judging whether a person is lying or not is mainly related to his lie motive. If his motive is positive, then this lie should be forgiven. There is also a situation where some people lie obviously to make jokes and adjust the atmosphere. The other party is easy to know. Strictly speaking, this situation is not called lying. Only when the lie motive has the nature of obvious external harm, we say that such person character may have problems.
In feelings, not being honest will often make communication more interesting. For example: a woman said to you, I really want to travel during the National Day. You said, I am sorry, maybe not free. But when the holiday came, you suddenly handed over the ticket you bought in advance, and she was easily moved. This lie turned into a surprise, making life more interesting. For some men who are in love, they know how to use lies to make life romantic and colorful.
In marriage, not being honest will often make women feel more hopeful. In marriage, there is only one situation in which men are not honest, which makes women particularly painful, that is, emotional infidelity. But most of the time, men are unfaithful to emotions, women are unclear, and more often just doubt. The vast majority of women believe that a man who is not honest will develop more. This is because unscrupulous men are less likely to be deceived and bullied.
Looking for a partner or looking for a partner is definitely not looking for an honest person, but looking for a reliable person. There are no people who are absolutely honest, and there are no people who are absolutely not honest. We say that a person is reliable, referring to the stability of this person's words and deeds, has his own principles, and has nothing to lie or not. You chat with a familiar friend. You know that he always likes to blow a cow. He doesn't think he will be a bad character. He may be out of vanity. Later, if he said something, you can just listen to it, which is also a kind of reliability.
I believe that many women do not believe in absolute pure love now, especially after marriage. Then the standard of a good man becomes reliable, not honest. The career is successful, the family has love, and the sense of responsibility is in place. This is actually very good.
Author: Fang Liang, well-known psychologist, Shi Zhanpai marriage mentor, veteran television media people. 5 years of experience in Jiangxi Satellite TV "Gold Medal Mediation", 15 years of experience in marriage and emotional counseling. The first person in China who proposed the concept of “marriage deposit”, the first person to propose the “domestic violence limited marriage” system, the first person to propose the concept of “proximity marriage certificate”.