Sometimes men and women do not find mutual understanding in addressing the issue of childbirth and then conflicts, quarrels and ineffective similar conversations in the family are not excluded.
When a man does not want to have children, he can justify it by his own unpreparedness for such responsibility or by fear of not meeting his wife's expectations in his material and paternal wealth.
The spouse, of course, can continue to dialogue about procreation, but in such cases it can not only bring the desired result, but also harm, and what to do in such a situation is a separate topic for the next article.
But if the wife does not want to have children, there can be many reasons.
Why doesn't the wife want children? Reasons…
Maybe she's just afraid for her figure or does not want to raise a child, or the birth of a child will interfere with her studies and career. It is possible that the weaker sex does not feel a reliable "rear", a worthy man next. And the fear of impending pregnancy, and then childbirth is big enough to afford to get pregnant. Fear for the health of the baby, his own, because it is also necessary to take into account, many women are very responsible approach to such a major event for them. So, if the husband is looking forward to his child, he will have to make some effort. Of course, each specific problem may have its own nuances, here we are talking about the General trend.
The wife does not want to give birth to a child... What to do?
The first thing you should do to convince to give birth to a baby - to begin to quietly promote the advantages of having a child. For example, you can jointly view films showing the happy life of families with children; talk about friends and acquaintances who already have their own, how wonderful it is; give examples from your personal childhood. It is important that your method of persuasion was not Intrusive, and everything looked natural.
The second is acquaintance with families in which there are already children. As a rule, parents are immensely happy to have their children, so at every meeting they will talk about children. Best of all, if friends will bring their kids and provide an opportunity to play with them your second half. So she will quickly understand the psychology of communication with children and may want to give birth to their own.
The third is unobtrusive talk about the future. If the husband will be a lot and colorful to talk about the possible beautiful life of his wife, about material well-being and prosperity, she will think about the need for procreation. And then, when the wife does not even think about the child, the husband is desirable to bring her to the appropriate dialogue. But he should not start talking about children first, so as not to irritate her once again. It is also necessary to address the options for investment, additional earnings and the ability to maintain stability until old age. The woman will involuntarily think of the kid, and at skillful wordplay she will talk on this subject.
Fourth – you can take your wife to places of mass gathering of children: parks, attractions, playgrounds. The main thing that there were children of one-three years, at such age they seem the most lovely. But keep in mind that the choice of location should seem as spontaneous as possible. This decision can be made in the middle of the weekend or after work. A walk in the fresh air will help to improve the mood and mental activity of the wife, which will direct thoughts in the right direction.
At all, have children or not – this deal two, only them to decide. Everyone in the family has the right to choose, it does not matter – husband or wife, but to voice their opinion on this matter, it is desirable that the partner is not tormented by doubts – what is happening? And can me not like or I not conform to title and status father/mothers? If your wife refuses at this stage of the second child and explains the reasons-this is one conversation, but if she refuses to give birth ever, then it is worth considering. In such a situation, it is worth visiting the consultations of a family psychologist to understand what kind of motives, what injuries a person has.