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Women's loneliness

Any normal woman wants to have relations with a man, and, of course, is dreaming "go under a wreath", especially whom for 30 years. But many ladies can not find a pair. Some of them have never met with young people, and someone tried to communicate with many, but did not find "his".

What is the source of modern woman's loneliness? There are many reasons, most of them very individual and specific, to clarify better politicalculture family psychologist, and read my previously written article "How to overcome fear of loneliness."

Here we will analyze the most relevant and common signs of loneliness in women.

1. Fear of starting a serious relationship. After watching the marriages of friends who married and divorced, the girl begins to wonder if she needs "all this", if such fragile connections.

2. Mother's influence. It is likely, mom had a bad Union for life, she taught her daughter that the stronger sex is evil, contact with them is dangerous and to enter into marriage is optional. As a result, this opinion was strengthened in the subconscious of the girl, causing anxiety and fear of any manifestation of feelings.

3. Own bad experience. The first love, and sometimes the second and third, affect our attitude to the family. Entering into a new Union, the woman is already initially wary, and whether it will be possible, and itself, without understanding why, provokes conflicts which as a result lead to a rupture. She is driven by her own fears and insecurities.

4. There was no "the one." The problem is that the search for the ideal can be continued indefinitely, because everyone has shortcomings. The little girl drew in his imagination the image of "Prince", which she would like to see next to him, most likely copied from his father or favorite movie character. But there is no ideal, it simply does not exist in nature. If the girl slightly lower the bar of their requirements, you will see that good and interesting men in the world much more.

5. Following "fashion". More and more girls tend to be independent in any sphere of life, earn a lot, independently solve problems. Only not every representative of the stronger sex is ready to be next to such a lady, he needs to feel needed and important, desired and loved, otherwise the gap is inevitable.

6. Type "gray mouse". Every woman should be able to present themselves, respectively, to monitor and care for themselves. After all, the man initially pays attention to appearance, and if "caught", will examine the character and soul. So that itself need to pay enough time and energy.

7. Passionately and deeply given to the feeling of love. Emotional dependence on a young person does not attract, but on the contrary, repels, irritates. Partnership with such a girl is frightening, because the stronger sex needs some freedom, and no one likes the" slave", too clingy.

8. Character trait. They largely determine the ability of a person to create a pair. If you want independence in everything and do not know how to go at least sometimes to compromise in a relationship, it sooner or later leads to problems. Woman is the basis of the family, its guardian and leader. The nature of it is intended to smooth out the tough male character. But modern ladies do not want to put up with this role, which ultimately leads to loneliness.

In order for a person to appear in your life, you need to increase your own rating. What is important for this:

Look young and healthy, cheerful and attractive, sexy and pretty. In fact, a man does not care how old a woman is. Importantly-on how many she looks!

Feel their "community" with the chosen person, strongly emphasize loyalty and devotion.

To be able to compromise for the sake of preserving the Union.

To be a friend, an assistant.

Not to be given to love completely, forgetting about the personality and not too quickly to agree to sex.

Never talk about past relationships.

Demonstrate modesty in requests, do not scare your chosen one with inflated and exorbitant desires.

A woman does not need to "smart", but, on the contrary, Express weakness and the need to support the stronger sex.

If there is a desire to find a permanent couple, carefully read all of the above, maybe you something is a miss? And the request is necessary to define correctly – if you want a husband, then it is likely it will not work. But if you want love and crave it, then be sure to meet your one and only, and then the marriage will take place. And stop focusing on your loneliness. Just live, communicate, work on yourself, of course, too, and happiness will come to you!