The fact of treason always brings great pain and the heaviest experiences, there is little difference between those who did it – a woman or a man. Although there are statistics on the ability to forgive. So here is wife justify their husbands in 70% cases, and those, in turn, only in 40%. This is due to the peculiarities of male psychology, its dominance and notorious polygamy.
He can love his wife very much, but he is not very stressed by the presence of many mistresses, just a new girl - always different. Knowing this, a man can not even imagine that his beloved is capable of such a thing. After all, for him to be a " loser "or" downed pilot", and that is how the situation is perceived, like death, it means that you are worse and less sexy than the other. Husbands rarely think – why did his faithful take such a step, what pushed her to this?
Reasons for infidelity wife in the family
Banal revenge for the humiliation suffered and conflicts on the basis of jealousy. In the modern world, wives often "mirror" their husbands – if it is allowed to him, why should I not try?
Absolute disappointment in marriage. Female psychological and behavioral construct is arranged difficult - it is the ability to give their loved ones those qualities and characteristics that are not in sight at the chosen one. And then, after a while, comes the insight into self-deception, of course, if the expected is not confirmed. Resentment, regret and even anger lead, often, to adultery.
Elementary "household". Family discord, quarrels, disputes and indifference to the interests and personal needs of each other lead to disrespect and loss of any trust and interest in the spouse, let alone passion and love. This is a kind of cry for help. Well, how else to attract attention?
Early and hasty marriage, girl nor morally, nor spiritually not was ready to fealty and decency. As they say, " do not walk up."
Genetics scientists have identified the so-called"gene of treason." Seriously! This type of women a lot and it is impossible to do anything, it will always pull "on the side", to adventure. If changed more than once, that she is the winner of such a gene, draw your own conclusions.
Love is gone forever and, if the heart is free, the probability of falling in love with another person is very high. And where passion, there and sex.
In any case, a woman's infidelity is always the result of long and painful experiences and worries, long thoughts and complex feelings, and not an instinct and not an unconscious possession of other female bodies, as in men. It is almost always a loss of trust and respect for her husband. But it is possible to return everything and win the beloved again, recognizing his share of guilt, his omission and non-participation in it. What can alert and attract the attention of the spouse in order to prevent adultery?
Signs and prerequisites of adultery
the most conspicuous-the phone is always there, constant correspondence with someone, privacy in conversation, a new pin code;
there is no intimacy, or contact is very limited;
ceased to be interested in her husband, his free time and indifferent to everything that happens;
too brooding and distracted;
absolutely no plans for the future - weekends, holidays, joint leisure;
in recent years has become too care for themselves and look much better;
there are new Hobbies that need a lot of time, consequently the frequent absence of the house;
Should we forgive his wife's infidelity? Psychologist's advice
But "it" happened! What next? After the scandals, shouting, quarrels, even fights... What to do? Try to place commas – " you can not forgive to part." A difficult and painful choice for many men. Most people think that forgiving his wife, he shows weakness and cowardice. Not at all – only a truly loving person is able to show generosity, unselfishness and view site nobility. For him, the words "love and family" are not empty sounds, not the habit of living like this, family values are important to him, he values the years he has lived and his own feelings. If you love – fight! Do not bore and do not sort things out, shut your mouth and start all over again – candy-bouquet period, dates, gifts, evening walks, theater, cinema. Remember how it all began! Don't forget, there's your 50% in what happened. Well, if, frankly, alone with yourself, attraction and affection have passed, and the offense does not let go, go and let your wife go, do not hide behind children, they certainly should not be hostages of your relationship.