The dangers of pride were known millennia ago, but people continue to fall into its nets. Pride is not a feeling, but a symptom of a disease of the human soul. What kind of disease is it? Pride-is the loss of adequacy in assessing themselves and their capabilities.
A man infected with pride begins to consider himself infallible, his knowledge the only true, and himself above other people. Precisely such attitude to fact, leads his to fall. After all, believing that a person is infallible, he thereby deprives himself of the opportunity to recognize and correct his mistakes.
Today we will not talk about the great generals who were killed by pride, and talk about how pride manifests itself in ordinary everyday life and destroys ordinary people like us.
Symptoms of pride:
Symptom " I know all this."
Sometimes another person, seeing that we do not understand something, tries to tell us some information so that we can correct. And we do not want to admit their ignorance or disrespect for the opinion of this man, shrug off his words.
We put ourselves on a pedestal, denying even the possibility that we can tell something new. Life is sure to RUB our noses for such arrogance and show that we do not know anything.
A symptom of"I despise them."
Other people can be disliked, even hated, if there is a good reason for it, but to despise them would be a mistake. If you despise someone, you thereby put himself mentally above that may not be true.
As soon as we start despising, we thereby dismiss all positive that can be in these people that can lead to their underestimation. As soon as the gap between reality and our perception of it becomes large, we begin to do stupid things ourselves.
A symptom of " Poor me, hapless."
It's a symptom of self-pity. Why, I'm so white and fluffy, and life is constantly hitting me on the head! This is unfair!
Life hits us on the head when we do something wrong, when our ideas about ourselves, at odds with reality. Life is saying to us "look, silly, what you do, leads to trouble finally realize!", but the person instead of drawing conclusions, prefers to feel sorry for himself. After all he the right, and the world bad!
Symptom " I have nothing to talk to you about!".
Sometimes there are conflicts between people and it is normal and natural, because people have different interests and visions of reality. It happens that one of the parties to the conflict is trying to talk to resolve the conflict more or less peacefully, and the other side, full of a sense of rightness, rejects even the possibility of dialogue.
This man is so infallible that the truth can only be on his side. Well, soon he would have to face an unexpected event that would make him doubt his own judgment. If he does not draw conclusions, these events will occur again and again.
And it's not that the universe punishes him, but that man loses touch with reality. What happens if we believe that fire can't burn us? We'll get burned again and again.
The symptom is"everything rests on me."
This symptom is quite insidious. A person begins to gradually tie everything around him and begins to believe that only he can hold everything. But that doesn't happen.
He can really keep everything under control, but he is mistaken in the fact that he is irreplaceable. In fact, he is afraid to share some of the power and responsibility, because then he will not be able to feel so important. He usually ends up taking on too much and everything falls apart.
Symptom "Irritability".
A man who is irritated at everything is infected with pride. He considers himself so important that he allows himself to scold other people about and without. Gradually scares away all around, imagining himself a judge who has the right to punish ordinary people.
He thinks he's so important that he thinks people are doing things to annoy him. The result is that people cease to communicate with him and the person remains lonely, full of anger and hatred grouch.
A symptom Of " me."
Sometimes we refuse to acknowledge that we need help when we desperately need it. And here pride begins to eat our soul. Because if we admit that we need help, we admit our weakness, but we must seem strong and infallible!
And so man begins to "seem" rather than be and the gap between reality and the imaginary grows. I think you already know what's going to happen.
Of course-this is not a complete set of symptoms, but you can certainly find them many more. The main sign of pride is the concentration solely on yourself and the absolute construction of their own merits.
No wonder they say that pride is the mother of all vices. Although, in my opinion, she shares primacy with laziness.