How to forgive? Each person had events in life about which he can't forget. Very often these memories relate to feelings of anger, insult or betrayal. If we were not able to fight back in time to the offender, we mentally return to these events again and again. If it was an insult, we think about how to respond. If this is betrayal, then we feel the pain of having been wronged by those we trusted or even loved. So we are stuck in the past, experiencing pain, frustration and anger.
It happens that traumatic events have long since died down, people who offended us, have long been lost, and we continue to return to them and return. Today can be all good-work, home, family, respect... when suddenly you remember how you were teased as a child and it spoils your whole day. It seems to us that we are at war with them, but in fact we are at war with ourselves. Sooner or later, we realize that we no longer want dramatic events to be a part of our lives today. The only way to do that is to forgive, let go and forget. But how?
How to forgive others?
Feelings and emotions are not so easy to subdue the mind. We can't order ourselves not to feel anger or resentment anymore, so it often happens that we want to forgive, but we can't.
There are several kinds of forgiveness: sometimes we need to forgive the enemy, for our own sake, so as not to be poisoned by anger at him, and sometimes we need to forgive a friend so that we can continue to love him.
To answer the question "how to forgive" you might think, and to whom do we forgive easily? It is easy for us to forgive small children, because they are not responsible for their actions. Imagine a person as a child who just doesn't understand how badly he behaves. A small child is controlled only by his desires, this is his trouble, for sure life will give him on the head more than once. It remains only to sympathize. Forgiveness is the prerogative of adults.
And if the person you got some very vicious and to see in it the child does not work and you do not feel him any warm feelings, I can imagine his wild animals. You wouldn't take offense at a mad dog or a Viper, would you?" So and on inadequate the angry people not worth to be offended. We just need to stay away, and if possible, then call the appropriate services.
How to forgive yourself?
Sometimes we do something that makes us angry with ourselves, mentally scold. This feeling is very similar to the feeling of guilt, and sometimes it is. In that case, we need forgiveness. But from whom, if you have offended yourself? In this case, it should be understood that none of us is perfect. We all make mistakes and inside each of us sits a small child who sometimes does stupid things. Forgive him.
It's hard to forgive the first time. The greater the offense, the harder it is to forgive. But no one said you had to do it all at once. It's just that every time a memory like this POPs up in your mind, use the techniques I've described to you. Do not concentrate on evil, concentrate on forgiveness and then very soon, heavy memories will not be a weight on your heart, but a spiritual resource that will help you in life.
What is the meaning of life? We all want to get clear and succinct answers to the questions we asked. We ask for example the question- " what is the meaning of the radio?", and get a clear answer "to listen to music." However, not all questions can be so easily and clearly answered.
Humanists will say that every person is unique, and life is needed to realize all facets of its uniqueness. They call it self-actualization. But it seems to me that this approach strongly smacks of pride.
Asking the question " what is the meaning of life?"first we need to understand what we mean. Are we interested in the meaning of life in General? Maybe we are interested in the meaning of human life, as a representative species? Or, perhaps, specifically your sense?
However, whatever we mean, the answer is not in us. Like, what's the point of a hairbrush? For the comb itself, its existence is meaningless, but for us its benefits are obvious. Or, for example, a chicken in a poultry farm. What was the meaning of her life? To be our food. Therefore, chickens are not recommended to think about their purpose.
And why do we want to know the meaning of our lives?
Perhaps to be filled with the importance of the task entrusted to us and immediately begin to fulfill its purpose. Here is only there is one nuance - "and we confident, that we want our purpose know?". Is it something stupid or inappropriate? What if we're being propagated by aliens to harvest human souls every ten thousand years?
Imagine that some higher being came to you and decided to tell you your destiny. And say that humanity needs to alter the chemical composition of the atmosphere, specifically you do not really need, and only important group of individuals in packs not less than ten thousand individuals. I think such knowledge would be useless to you.
All this may or may not be true. However, life is too multifaceted for our existence to be limited to any one task. We perform a lot of functions and roles: we are children, we are parents, we are workers, we are citizens, we are living beings, etc. We bring a lot of benefit. For our parents is obvious sense of our existence, we need, to us love. For our boss, too, everything is obvious-we need to work. Our children need us to feed, love and support them until they grow up.
We ask this question because no one has told us what our main task is. So choose it yourself! But are looking for sense not in itself, and in outside. The meaning of life — a lot. We choose where we can be useful. We can only be glad that while we live and have the luxury of just " being."