Hi, honey! Today we talk with you about weak men and strong women. But before we start this serious conversation, there's someone I want you to meet.
Meet Light. Sveta is 32 years old. She goes up the career ladder, tapping the rhythm with the heels of her Louboutins. The real ones with the red sole and the signature.
Without exception, friends say, that Light — very clever: the house clean, cooks like a goddess, goes to English classes, dancing bachata and... suffers in a strange relationship with a male whiner.
Light is confident that the good men extinct or took them apart more kittens. But you can't be alone, can you? She is actively looking for a man and eventually finds Him. Serezha — the good, too. Does not drink, and knows how to fix the faucet and bring to orgasm in ten different poses.
They have to Sveta's love at first look and full match horoscope. Only here Serezha often complains about the Light on the life and it is annoying. What you got fired for the chief, the tyrant, the car wants to sell it because petrol is expensive. But who doesn't, right? Can be in life of the successful and beautiful man a black strip?
Light stroked the veil and sits. Waits. Of course, offer hands, hearts and moved in a small... Recognize anyone you know in this World?
Now I'll give you a cheat code, a secret rule that will help change "Svetin" life and not attract whiners, wimps and bummers. Perhaps this secret information will be useful to you, my dear!
Content of article:
• How to recognize a weak man
* Why women attract whiners
• What lies behind the man's complaints
* 3 tips to help stop attracting weak men
I can do: one day in the life of a typical "castigatori»
What does the life of a girl who attracts weak men look like? Frankly, not rosy. She goes through life under the motto " plow, endure, pull."
Got up in the morning, made Breakfast. Woke the man. While he washes, she has already made fragrant coffee and draw one arrow. I'm sure if the store could buy another pair of hands to keep up more, she would do it. But the man is in no hurry…
After work, our "I can do everything myself" -a woman, tired, goes to the bar with her friends, puts aside the phone, orders a glass of wine and begins to complain, what a whiner and weakling Valera Pasha-Seryozha.
He can't even fry his own eggs. Forgot, I suppose, as iron in General looks, if not for her, and so it went lumpy. So she complains, mentally rubbing her halo over my head, sad sigh, because tomorrow all over again…
How to recognize a weak man?
He has the President not as the head of the old fool, the dollar's fault that you have to pull a loan on the TV itself.
What does a man do in such a situation? He whines. Because he can't get results. He easily finds a scapegoat, who is to blame for his troubles, and he remains white and fluffy. Do you have anything in common... with yourself, honey?
Maybe it wasn't just him.
Surely you will now say: "Yaroslav, but I do not whine. I go to work, I move forward, I get an education and in the evenings I cook a three-course dinner. I manage everything and I do not lie, I do not push a sofa as my man. I do not wrap snot on my fist, but I take it and do it."
Now I'll surprise you: girls here are such weaklings also whine, honey. Just something else.
Weak men complain about how difficult-impossible, and the woman by my side, pouting, whining that the man got a defective, there is nothing to achieve, just playing tanks and eating up all the inventory in the refrigerator.
You see, in this situation, the woman, too, instead of creating a result – to find a cool man, learn to live with your partner – begins to whine. She sits down for a glass of Merlot and let's talk about the bones of his partner.
And here we have a perfect match: two people who can not give the result, meet and begin to suffer together. Are their relationships: I told you a portion of complaints, I like you a portion of complaints, and all are fed up of this "love."
Honey, if you've just met a man and you're trying to decipher his behavior, here's a direct insight.
Excuses are a Wake-up call. "I'll earn an apartment, then we'll get married", " I have a difficult period, let's live separately?"- these are signs that before you not your hero.
Why a man whines: the non-obvious reason for his weakness
What do you think a man provokes you with his constant complaints? That's right, pity. Essentially their whining a man shouts: "you have to Admit it, this impossible. I can't do it."
The woman immediately runs to him and begins to regret: "He's such a poor, miserable, I'm here in this swamp will be removed and the collector will bring that man ate. He'll get over it, I can do my best for him.
And then my man will believe in himself, move mountains and be grateful to me for the rest of his life. A real woman should believe and support her man." I hope you're not acting like this, honey.
Pity, whining, disbelief, passivity-think about it, this is what you were born for? Do you really think there's a diamond in this swamp?
Like attracts like or why the strong don't fall for the weak
Let's imagine people who don't whine. No, they also have one head, two arms and 24 hours a day. They live the same life as you: work, build relationships, go to the bar on Fridays and watch a movie on weekends.
They also have loans, they saw the dollar and, believe it or not, they were also fired from their jobs. Only here they are not used to complain.
The strong see every obstacle as an opportunity, they do not need to justify their fears and laziness to change something.
And now think about it, wasn one of such people will be interestingly in paired with weak partner? I don't think so. He just doesn't want to invest his energy in a failed project called "Weird relationship."
But a weak man happily drains all the energy on whining and insults. A man in such a pair always says that his woman has high demands, and she, clenching her teeth, calls him a weakling and goes to her mother.
How to stop attracting weak men: 3 tips that work
Get rid of the whining or be prepared for your whining to be bait for the whining of a loser man. Just do not immediately run to the calendar and circle this day, they say, from today I no longer whine.
No, honey, that's not gonna work. It is better to redirect this energy into pumping your femininity, yourself as a person. You can, for example, sign up for a free course "Man: honest instruction", where we are just working on this topic.
Admit that you make your own life. You can only get out of the rake dance if you admit, "Yes, I do tread on the rake. It's not normal. It hurts me." Take responsibility for your life, then abruptly perehochetsya look for reasons in others.
Focus on yourself. A woman who is focused on herself is not steamed. She doesn't need anyone. If you're always looking for average men and then trying to make a Prince out of them, then you haven't worked hard enough as a woman.
This scheme works only this way: first you learn to appreciate yourself, and then you meet a man who is ready to put a ring on his finger and please.
Honey, I hope I didn't overburden you today. I just really want you to be okay. You will not believe it, but a happy relationship can be built, if you throw out of your beautiful head installation " I'm strong and independent.”
Just listen to me: he won't change
But you can always work hard on yourself and build a happy relationship with a decent man.